We had two big Christmas parties on the 20th December  - 300 guests at Digress City and 200 at The Cuban Bar.  We’ve had some great feedback as you’ll see below.  We are now planning no less than three huge Valentine’s parties so do book up for them now.

 ”Event format is very good, very accessible, no pressure to do anything if you don’t want to, but extra things to do if you wish to get involved.”

“SS has evolved significantly since I first came - years and years ago.  Venues are getting better, and the format. Well done ! ”

“Yes, loved the format, live bands are a great idea.”

We took a few photos that we though you might enjoy.

 

New Asian Website

We are pleased to announce that our new Asian site www.asiansinglesolution.com is now live.

 

You can choose which site you wish to be on, or use both if you wish.

Terms and Conditions are the same for both sites, and both are trading names for Go Dating Ltd

 

When you next log into singlesolution.com you will be offered the option to go straight to the Asian site and you can migrate your paid membership to the new site if you have one.

 

Messages

If you currently have unread mail, you may continue to receive notifications from both sites until you read the mail on both sites, or change your user preferences which can be found under Edit Profile.

Newsletters and emails

Events

 

All our Asian events will be managed from Asiansinglesolution.com

 

All bookings and post event messaging will be through The Asian site.

 

2. On both sites, check your profile visibility and messaging preferences. Delete profile on singlesolution.com if you wish. See under Edit Profile

We often get asked about what to say during speed dating.  Everyone always seems to ask “Where do you live?” and “Where do you work?” but that can get really boring after a while. We’ve put together ten top questions that you can use whether you are speed dating or just mingling:

1) What are you most proud of in your life?

2) Has anyone ever said you look like anyone famous?

If they can’t think of anyone, you can make it easier by asking who they would cast if they were to make movie about their life.

3) Tell me about your ideal man/woman?

A very sneaky tip is to point to yourself when you ask this question - it makes them connect you to the question.

4) If money wasn’t an issue, where would you go and what would you do?

5) What songs would be on the soundtrack to your life?

6) What would be the title of your autobiography?

7) What makes you smile?

If you could invite three guests to a dinner party - alive or dead - who would they be?

9) Tell me a secret? 

Of a joke if they can’t think of one.

10)  What’s the stupidest question someone else has asked you tonight?

We read a very interesting article in the Times over the weekend about Celibacy, so we thought we’d share some of the best bits with you. 

1. The ingredients that make sex wonderful can also make it destructive. Psychologist Harvey Milkman and chemist Stanley Sunderwirth, authors of Craving for Ecstasy: The Consciousness and Chemistry of Escape, believe that sexual arousal triggers an increase in the release of neurotransmitters in much the same way as drugs and alcohol.

2. Leonardo Da Vinci, Stephen Fry, Cliff Richard, Morrissey, Isaac Newton, Hans Christian Andersen, Stevie Smith, Beryl Bainbridge, Irma Kurtz and Mother Teresa were all famously celibate.

3. If you don’t have sex, you can’t have bad sex. And you won’t have to worry about contraception, sexually-transmitted infections, compatibility, penis size and so on. Which leaves a lot more time for beauty treatments, sports, good books, movies and more.

4.  Clara Meadmore, Britain’s oldest virgin at 105 says lifelong celibacy is the secret to her long life.

Of course, you don’t have to be celibate if you don’t want to.  We believe that sex is great for keeping fit, gets your heart going and keeps you healthy. Why not come along to one of our events or send out some emails on our dating site and start meeting other singles today

Our Halloween party at the Abbey was the biggest and best so far - with over 250 guests signed up.

The Abbey was decorated with lots of gruesome decorations - from hanging skeletons to bats and spiders. Our staff dressed up and many of our guests did so too as you’ll see in the photos below. Guests were invited to play the Halloween ice breaking game to win free drinks. To do this, they had to plunge their hand into the ice bucket ( complete with ice!) and pull out an eyeball. They then had to search the room for the matching eyeball which provided an instant talking point.

Magician Ravi Mayar and Tarot Reader Hayley Blake proved to be incredibly popular and both were in high demand. Once the mingling and speed dating had taken place, the evening was rounded off with a couple of stunning sets from Single Solution’s favourite covers band “The Bluejacks.” We’ve had such great feedback about our band that we are delighted to say we’ve booked them again to play at our big Christmas party on the 20th December.

Thank you to everyone who came and “got into the spirt” of Halloween. We hope next year will be even better!

We took a few photos that we though you might enjoy.

Statistically, our Halloween parties have resulted in more matches than any of our other events.  Perhaps this is because there is less pressure than other times of year or because our guests know it’s going to be a really fun party. 

Halloween is traditionally the night when ghosts and ghoulies walk the earth and is the spookiest night of the year.  It’s a well known fact that when you are scared then the body produces adrenalin and the also the chemical “phenylethylamine.”     Together they make our hearts beat a little faster and our eyes sparkle which is also what happens when you fall in love.   Chocolate if very high in the chemical which is why it’s such a great gift to give a potential lover.

So this Halloween why not dig up some sexy costumes and come out and play - you’ll double your chances of pulling and it’s the perfect opportunity to cling to each other!

 

Yes, it’s another Single Solution Triumph

So, we are better than all the big dating sites out there. We are not as big but our users are real and genuine.

Here’s a comment we got today.

“I have met someone through your website, ….  Good website, I’ve never met anyone on any of the others I had tried - Dating direct and Match!”

Good luck with the relationship Kirsty.

Two New Weddings

Congratulations to Sophie and Alex who met at one of our events. They are getting married in Barbados this month.

Also, to Kate and John who got married in August this year, after meeting at a Single Solution event in 2006.

Paul

Dating Etiquette.

To pay or not to pay that is the question….

Ok lets be honest, the old fashioned ‘man pays for everything’ has gone out of the window, however when one is first embarking on what could be ‘the’ relationship what are the do’s and don’ts of paying on dates?

After much questioning of friends of both genders I have come to the following conclusions – the majority of women in my experience are more than happy to pay there share – there are a few out there who expect have everything bought for them –but they are the exception not the rule. BUT and this is a biggie- it is widely acknowledged that the first time one goes for dinner the man should pay- friends share- lover’s don’t!

If your first date is meeting for drinks, generally you will probably both have bought a round – this means that you already know that the girl you are with is quite prepared to pay her share .If a second date is arranged and this involves going for dinner then this should be paid for by the man- you already like this person enough to invest more time in seeing them, so invest in other ways too- it doesn’t have to be a flash restaurant although the local kebab shop is probably not ideal.

If you are a really smooth operator you will discreetly pay for the meal when your date is in the powder room – this avoids awkward sitting starring at the bill moments- on occasions when this has happened I do offer to pay, however if my offer is accepted I am to put it mildly, shocked. The chances are that if he has paid, next time we go out I’ll pay – but if someone has shown themselves to be a bit tight its makes you question whether a third date will happen….!

Thanks to Charlotte for this article.

Here’s our top tips for online dating success

What works:

1. Good photo.
2. Keeping it relaxed, fun and light hearted.
3. Writing a good profile.
4. … in proper English (spellchecked etc).
5. Making the time and effort to connect personally with people.
6. Being honest
7. Being proactive, involved and consistent.

To read the full report go to

Click here

There was a very interesting article in the Metro today stating that  the number of eligible single men is dwindling.    According to a top US expert, women want employed, sociable men but he predicts that soon almost 40 per cent of women will be living on their own.    He says it’s becoming harder and harder for women to meet quality guys.

Well guess what, we at the Single Solution don’t believe this at all. Yes, it’s true that it’s getting harder to meet people as people have less and less free time.  However, we run quality events every week for professionals all over London.  If you want to know where the good men are ( and women!) then just come to a couple of our parties.

The advice is simple - if you want to meet someone then it’s time to go and buy a nice outfit, get your hair done and try some of our events.    More and more men are starting to realise this and we sometimes have to turn them away to balance the numbers.

Go on, sign up for a party now and give yourself a fair chance.