Last month we agreed to donate £3 from every ticket sold to our 27th April parties.  I am pleased to report back that this came to £600.

The donation was paid to the Disasters Emergency Committee to support the innocent victims of the current crisis in Syria. To provide emergency shelter, medicines and supplies for families and children.

Thank you to everyone who attended the event.

If you wish to read more about the appeal or to make a donation, visit http://www.dec.org.uk/

Here are some of our

lastest April Feedbacks.

We had another very busy month in April. We love to hear your success stories and get emails every day saying how much you are enjoying the site.

Here are just a few of the latest.

“ I met someone from an event and we dated for some time” EF

“ I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : thanks” HM

“Love the events” PB

“Overall a great service” RD

“Really good. Love all the events on offer.” NF

“Many thanks for a great event last night – there was a fantastic atmosphere and a lovely mix of people” TS

If you have your own please do share it with us: info@singlesolution.com

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

When you arrive at an event

you must wear a name badge

When you arrive at one of our singles events you’ll be given a sticker with your user name written on it.    This sticker may end up being your secret weapon so it’s VITAL that you do actually wear it.

By wear it, I mean put it in a visible place that everyone can see.  Not ( as some people do) on your knee, handbag, under a coat,  on your hip and certainly not screwed up in your pocket.

We give you a name badge so we can identify you if necessary.  Perhaps we have someone who would like to meet you or need to find you for your speed dating spot.  As well as this, it’s proof that you’ve been signed in and have paid for the event.  If you aren’t wearing one they you may be prevented from entering if you go outside at all.

There’s another great reason why you should wear the name badge.  Your Mr or Miss Right could be at the event and longing to come over and say hello.  However, they can see you are busy talking to someone else so don’t get the chance to come over.  If they can see your name badge then they have the option to send you a message the next day, free of charge on the site.  If they can’t find you then you’ll just be ships that pass in the night.

So please wear your name badge.  Thank you!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here’s another email

from the Dating Guru’s Mailbag

“Dear James,

I’ve been seeing someone for seven months now and things are going really well.  However, I’ve recently found out that she has a secret box at the bottom of her wardrobe. In this box she keeps photos and letters from old boyfriends.  I know she still looks through this box as she told me.  Should I be worried?  Does she wish she was still with one of them and not me?  H”

Hi H,

Thank you for your message. Firstly, you may be surprised to here but MOST women have a secret box or photo album under the bed or tucked away in a wardrobe.  In fact, many men have one too.  It’s just a collection of memories that we can look back on from time to time.  She’s not looking back wishing that she was still with these various guys, but using them to recall positive emotions.  The same could be true of a favourite book, film or piece or art.

If you end up in a long term relationship with her then there will come a time when these items don’t matter anymore.  She’ll have years of new memories, emotions and experiences that you’ve shared together than will make her forget about the past.

The most important thing is not to make a big deal about this and start getting  jealous or paranoid.  She’s open about this box so she’s not hiding anything from you.  Keep in mind that she is with you because she wants to be. Accept that and make sure you have an amazing journey together……..and take lots of photos!

If you have your own dating problem or question then you can ask our Dating Guru for help.  Email  info@singlesolution.com    The best questions will get answered ( anonymously!)  in this blog.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.asiansinglesolution.com

Here are some of our

favourite March Feedback’s.

We had another very busy month in March.  We love to hear your success stories and get emails every day saying how much you are enjoying the site.

Here are just a few of the latest.

“Very good. Excellent parties ” MM

“I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single Feed back : Great ” DJ

“It’s a great site! ” SA

” Good site, and enjoyable events, just want a break and may come back later in the year. ” CD

“It’s very good “  SF

” I think they are good and the events are a success ” CA

” I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Super ” CC

“Good site, good functions ” BV

If you have your own please do share it with us: info@singlesolution.com

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Is the office a good place

to meet a new partner?

Before the Internet, the main way we met other people was through our work.  But now, as we work longer and longer hours in more remote locations it can be much more difficult.  Despite this, it can still be an excellent way to get a date.

If you spend a lot of time with a small number of people then you will get attached to some of them.  It’s human nature and how we bond for survival.

You do need to be very careful that you don’t cross boundaries.  Get to know someone as a friend first and then ask them to meet up with for a coffee/drink/meal outside work.  If they are interested they’ll accept but if not then don’t keep endlessly asking.

If things do work out for you then I’d advise you to keep it as low key as possible during office hours.  You don’t want to make your colleagues feel uncomfortable or embarrassed by your behaviour so think about how they might feel.

You should also make sure that you don’t bring any problems to work with you.  It’s not the time for heated arguments or sulking.   Keep in mind that the relationship doesn’t last the you’ll be still be stuck together in close proximity, so end things on a happy friendly note if need be.

Several studies have shown that between 30 and 50 % of all office romances do indeed end up in marriage.  So they definitely can work.

I’d like to hear your thoughts on this subject.  Have you ever dated someone you worked with and how did things work out for you?
Good luck!

James Preece

The Dating Guru

Are you making this huge mistake

that’s costing you dating success?

Writing a fantastic online profile can take a bit of time.    You must craft it carefully to really sell yourself and tell the world about the type of person you are looking to meet.  The same goes for your online dating photo album.  You have to choose your best photos that reflect you and get people intrigued enough to make contact.  Perhaps you’ll through in a few interesting shots that show you doing interesting things.  After all you want to stand out for the right reasons and make an impact.

So you’ve made the effort to do all this as you know how important it is.  BUT you’re making the biggest mistake possible!

What is this faux pas and why is it so damaging?   It’s this simple:  You’ve not taken out a full membership and expect people to contact you

A great profile is vital but it’s not enough.  It’s like having a golden goose that lays golden eggs……..and then not bothering to feed it.   You are letting all that hard work go to waste and not taking control of your love life.  If anyone decent does contact you then you probably won’t even be able to read or reply to their messages.  You’re killing your goose rather than reaping the benefits.

If you want to be successful you must be proactive, take out a full membership and start contacting people.  That’s the only way you’ll get results.

So what are you waiting for?

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Here are a few of our

favourite Favourite Feedback’s.

February was a great month with Valentine’s being a particular highlight. We love to hear your success stories and get emails every day saying how much you are enjoying the site.

Here are just a few of the latest.

“I just got engaged to the girl that I met at your party 3 years ago, to be married later this year.

“Thanks for some lovely evenings and the opportunity to meet many interesting people.” SG

“I liked the icebreaker games!  ” SJ

“Drinks prices ok, staff very friendly and helpful, good mix of ages people, the band were very good and the fact you had 3 rooms for the event was good, magician was very good also, the tricks he did were excellent” SW

“Functions were good. Met some nice guys” SD

“Your site was great. ” GN

“I loved the venue, it was excellent having a proper dance floor with a 2nd bar area. The band were good” SG

“Thanks for the service. The events were well organised. ” JT

“I thought you’re events were good, but am now happily coupled up! “  JB

“Very good parties ” MP

“It’s a great website ” TP

If you have your own please do share it with us: info@singlesolution.com

Best Wishes,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

Sometimes it’s better not to

reply to a message

Rejection is never an easy thing to accept,  no matter how hard the other person tries to do it gently.  It can be painful if you allow yourself to read too much in to it.

Online dating is a wonderful chance to meet new people and you’ll be given thousands of potential matches.  However, it’s only natural that you aren’t going to be interested in every single one of them.  Each of us likes completely different things and is looking for something different in a partner.  So you’ll get messages and emails from some people that you’ll know aren’t right for you.

The dilemma is knowing what to do with this messages.  On one hand, you might wish to be polite and tell them you aren’t interested, using one of our pre written messages.  The trouble is that this can be taken the wrong way.

The alternative is to do absolutely nothing and ignore the message.  That way no feelings are hurt.

I’d advise you to do a little of both.  If you aren’t keen, make something up and say that you are seeing someone new or that you are looking for someone a little older/younger/more local.   They should accept it but if they don’t , simply block them rather than wasting time on a debate!

Please remember that if you contact someone and they don’t reply, they are probably just trying to be nice rather than make you feel bad.  The secret is to contact lots of people that you like the look of.  By keeping positive and spending time on your profile/messages you’ll soon meet someone even better.

Good luck!

James Preece – the Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Here is another dating problem

answered by our Dating Expert
“Dear James,  I’ve been single for two years now and I’m looking to meet a nice man in his 50s to start a relationship with.  I’ve enjoyed the Single Solution events but I want to increase my chances and create more dating opportunities.  So my friend suggested I start trying the personal adverts section in the newspaper.  Do you have any tips on how to do this and are they any good?  Elsa”

Hi Elsa,

Thank you for your message and I’m glad you like the singles parties.  Personal ads in the papers used to be a very common way of communicating before the Internet revolutionised the way we date.  It’s not that popular anymore for this reason but it’s still used by a select few. For someone over the age of 50 who isn’t so Internet savvy, it can still be a good way to meet other like minded singletons.

However, there are a few things to keep in mind:

1) Watch your bill. Nowadays, you don’t usually send letters to a mailbox or post off your photograph.  They are usually done by text message and voicemail.  This can work out quite expensive if you use the service a lot.

2)  Be alert for Fakes.  Newspaper adverts can be set up by anyone so be very careful about who you communicate with.  Always speak on the phone before you meet up, just to verify they are who they claim to be.

2) Meet in a safe, public place.  Make sure it’s somewhere local to you and where you are comfortable.

3) Don’t sit back and wait.   Hopefully you’ll get some nice people contacting you BUT it’s also up to you to contact anyone you like the look of

4) Try other things.  While this may work out for you, you should still try other things.  Online Dating in particular is now incredibly busy for the over 50s and you should not be afraid to give it a go.

5) Keep going.  If the first person you meet isn’t right, don’t give up.  It could take five or six meetings before you find someone you connect with.

Happy dating!

James Preece – the Dating Guru