Creating a good first impression
Monday, January 26th, 2009It’s often said that it only takes three to seven seconds for someone to decide whether they like you or not.  While it can be hard to change their minds after that, it certainly is possible, but why not do the best you can to great an amazing impression in the first place?
The calmer and more relaxed you appear then the more at ease you’ll make the other person feel. If you are uneasy and nervous then this will come across. The secret is to smile warmly and try and be yourself. Don’t overdo it though or you’ll come across as snarmy.
A picture paints a thousand words so make sure you always look your best. Many women will notice a man’s shoes before anything else and men often look at a woman’s hair first. If you know you look good on the outside then you’ll feel much better on the inside.
Stand tall and uncross your arms. If you look friendly and open then more people will approach you. Imagine looking at yourself form across the room and how others might see you. Â
Memorise a list of interesting “small talk questions” that you can ask. This stops you getting tongue tied and gives you both a chance to find similar interests. Don’t ask a series of questions that can be answered with one or two words, but rather get them to open up and talk about themselves.
Remember to listen. People love being paid attention to, so make sure they feel like they are the most important person in the room to you. You’ll then increase your connection and make them want to keep talking to you.
Finally, studies have shown that people holding warm drinks are considered to be seen as “warm people” and those holding cold drinks can be judged as “cold and icy.”  Â
 James Preece. Dating Coach for the Single Solution.
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