We always recommend that you think up lots of great questions that you ask people to keep conversation flowing. There is nothing worse that an awkward silence when you are first getting to know someone.  Make sure you don’t ask open ended questions as you’ll only get “yes or no” answers which can kill your conversation stone dead!   

To get you started, we’ve come up with some great questions that you can ask. Just remember to really listen to the answers and don’t keep firing off questions.  Instead, try and blend them naturally into your chat.

James Preece – Dating Expert

We’ve put together some useful tips on having a great date that we thought you might find useful: 

1)      Be kind and considerate. Observe good manners and treat your date as you’d wish to be treated yourself.

2)      Be generous. For the best outcome, men should always offer to pay but women should not take advantage of this and over the period of several dates then the women should take their turn.

3)      Take an interest, make sure you a good listener.  People love it when you pay attention to them and they’ll instinctively like you a lot more.

4)      Use Body Language to your advantage– be flirty, smile and pay attention to the signals they are giving off too.

5)      Be honest about your intentions and don’t play games. Follow up afterwards, even if you aren’t interested.

6)      Do something around an activity, so the focus isn’t just on you. Make sure it’s something where you can both still talk and get to know each other.

7)      Dress up, take pride in your appearance. Brush your hair, floss your teeth and make sure you smell nice.  Remember you want to present the best version of yourself possible so do make the effort.

8 )      Don’t talk about exes or competition for your dates.  Focus on making them feel special instead.

9)      Have several talking points pre-prepared.  This will make you seem interesting and helps fill any awkward silences

10)  Pay a compliment to your date, but don’t go overboard.

11)  Wear nice underwear. Even if you aren’t intending to have sex, it will make you feel sexier and more confident.

James Preece & Paul Ergatoudis, Dating Experts for the Single Solution

There I was quietly enjoying a cup of tea, when “beep beep” goes my phone. Yet, another message telling me that I needed to upgrade my phone.

If you think about it, how many times a day are we bombarded with invitations to upgrade stuff that works perfectly well? Windows is another one. It seems that every day, I am ordered by Window’s to install vital updates for my own security. I wouldn’t mind so much except that sometimes the computer just reboots itself, and closes all the fantastic blogs that I’m in the middle of writing.

Windows is the worst culprit of all, because their new versions are always more system intensive, meaning not just new software is needed, but new, more powerful computers.

I always tried to live by the motto “if it ain’t broke, don’t fix it”. What ever happened to that one? It seems that part of the price of wonderful technology, is that these companies are continually re-inventing the wheel to earn revenue. Now that’s fine if the functionality is genuinely increased, but is it really? Marginally, maybe, but a phone is really just for talking to each other, and a spreadsheet is for adding up numbers.

Will the next stage be upgrade your wife (or husband)? Well I’m pleased to say, that as one of the leaders in the dating world we have no plans for that at the moment, but who knows what the future might hold.

Many people do bring their friends along to the events, but plenty of people do come on their own.

Remember that we have hosts at the events who will make sure you are introduced to the other guests and not left on your own.  If you are a bit nervous then do ask them for help as they might not be aware of this.

If you do come with friends, try and split up as some people find it hard to approach groups.

We don’t issue printed tickets. Instead, when you book up you will get an email confirmation from us.  Please print this off if you’ve not been before and bring it with you. You just need to quote your “nickname” on the door when you arrive.

If you have booked for friends please make sure that they know the nicknames you signed them up with.  This will usually be there first name and a number, unless you change it.

You can always make sure that you have booked by checking in your account and look under “My Events” on your home page once signed in.

We always ask guests to dress to impress at our events.  By this we suggest that you wear a nice shirt or dress and don’t wear blue jeans or trainers.

Our parties are aimed at professionals so we have been trying to be stricter on dress codes.  It’s worth noticing that the men who wear suits and the women who dress up are the ones who have the best success!  Yes, you might feel more comfortable in jeans but remember you are advertising yourself in a similar way to a job interview. People will be looking at you and making quick judgements based on the way you dress.

Also, it’s not just our dress code that we have to enforce, but also the policies of the particular bars that we use.

If you are in any doubt, we often have our Style Consultant at the events who will be able to give you some tips and advice.

If you have having problems logging in, firstly make sure you are entering the correct password. If you’ve forgotten you can request a new one using the “password reminder” option. 

If that still doesn’t work, try these in order:

1. Please click on page refresh before logging in.

2. Try another page to log in from eg

http://www.singlesolution.com/events/3. Clear temp internet files. You can do this in Internet Explorer by clicking on TOOLS, then INTERNET OPTIONS, then BROWSING HISTORY.

www.mozilla.com/firefox/

If you’ve only bought 10 credits then we expect you will use them up well before the month is up.

The standing charge is stated in many different places on the site, eg on the dating home page, in the accounts section, and in help under “how much does it cost”.

If you have Premium Membership as well as credits then there will be bo standing charge as long as you are a member.

Please do not analyse the pricing. You have to trust us to do what is necessary to populate the event despite what you think might be fair or otherwise. It’s not just about maximising profits. Most of our real stress is to do with getting an even ratio of men to women.