For some it comes naturally. A few drinks into a date, you just catch each others eyes, the moment seems right. That first kiss. So special, but often awkward.
Does he(she) want it? This question can make you so nervous that you delay that special moment and sometimes you miss your chance.
You could ask permission, or you can just create opportunities to touch your date in a subtle way that can lead onto more.
I think of these opportunities as transitions, i.e. during a change of scene. If you spend the entire date in one location, at what point do you go for that kiss. It can be daunting, especially if you are unable to read your dates body language. Changing scene, location, venue, tables etc can give you a perfect opportunity.
Consider these scenarios. Some are more male than female focused. Alternate gender where appropriate.
1. You greet her from a car, or taxi. Take her hand, use that to pull her gently towards you. Traditional European greeting, kiss to the cheek
2. You go to a restaurant. Hold the door for her. Place your hand gently on her back and guide her through the door
3. Leaving a venue. Again, open the door, but this time put your arm round your date when you walk away. Read the signals, is he/she comfortable
4. Repeat 3, by changing venue. Its not a pub crawl, but each time you both stand up its an opportunity to take her hand, to hold open a door, walk arm in arm.
5. Walk him or her home or to the station. Ensure you go for a goodbye kiss
Having a date at your home can be quite daunting if you have not yet kissed your date. Would someone feel that it would automatically lead to more if they accepted the kiss?
Unless you are very comfortable with the whole thing, book a restaurant, meet for a drink so you can create these subtle touching opportunities.