For some it comes naturally. A few drinks into a date, you just catch each others eyes, the moment seems right. That first kiss. So special, but often awkward.
Does he(she) want it? This question can make you so nervous that you delay that special moment and sometimes you miss your chance.

You could ask permission, or you can just create opportunities to touch your date in a subtle way that can lead onto more.

I think of these opportunities as transitions, i.e. during a change of scene. If you spend the entire date in one location, at what point do you go for that kiss. It can be daunting, especially if you are unable to read your dates body language.  Changing scene, location, venue, tables etc can give you a perfect opportunity.

Consider these scenarios.  Some are more male than female focused. Alternate gender where appropriate.

1. You greet her from a car, or taxi. Take her hand, use that to pull her gently towards you. Traditional European greeting, kiss to the cheek

2. You go to a restaurant. Hold the door for her. Place your hand gently on her back and guide her through the door

3. Leaving a venue. Again, open the door, but this time put your arm round your date when you walk away. Read the signals, is he/she comfortable

4. Repeat 3, by changing venue. Its not a pub crawl, but each time you both stand up its an opportunity to take her hand, to hold open a door, walk arm in arm.

5. Walk him or her home or to the station. Ensure you go for a goodbye kiss

Having a date at your home can be quite daunting if you have not yet kissed your date. Would someone feel that it would automatically lead to more if they accepted the kiss?

Unless you are very comfortable with the whole thing, book a restaurant, meet for a drink so you can create these subtle touching opportunities.

I’ve noticed something odd at some of our parties that I wanted to share with you.
Guests often turn up with coats, hats, scarves etc which is quite normal considering the unreliable British weather.
Most will put these in the cloakroom so they can relax and enjoy the evening. We always make sure that a cloakroom is available for this very reason.

However…..sometimes guests prefer to keep their coats on and will keep wrapped up throughout the party.

This really is quite an odd thing to do and I’ve been trying to work out the reasons for this. Of course, everyone is entitled to wear what they want but it really doesn’t do anyone any favours.
By keeping your coat on you are preparing yourself to leave before you’ve even started. When you keep your coat on, everyone else will assume you’ve had enough and are on the way out.
It’s just an unnecessary barrier and people will be reluctant to come and say hi.

To make matters worse, I’ve even had these fully dressed guests complaining to me that that it’s too warm in the venue!

These guests have usually made a big effort to wear something smart and sexy but nobody will ever know. So take off your coats, reveal what’s underneath and make the most of what you have. Don’t hide behind a safety blanket. You’ll get much better results and have a much more fun evening.

James Preece Dating Coach for www.singlesolution.com

We have recently added three new features to our search engine.

Searches have always been ordered by last logged in, which seems like a fair method. This means the users who are most active will always be at the top. The obvious issue is that with thousands of people logging in regularly, profiles can very quickly slip down the results. Go on holiday for a week, and your profile may be so far down the list that you’d need a spade to find it.

Once results are displayed you are rearrange.

• Last logged in (default)
• I feel lucky (random)
• Distance from you
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We were sent this hilarious email that was supposedly send by a disgruntled guy after a date which we thought you might find amusing. Apparently this sort of thing does really happen! If you have a funnier email we’d love to read it!

James
Dating Coach
www.singlesolution.com

Subject: Invoice 6/12/04

Date: Sat, 12 Jun 2009 17:15:59 EDT

Dear Dana:

On June 5, you agreed to accept dinner, paid for in full, by me, based on your stated offer that we would go out again. In that you have ignored all overtures to said follow up meeting, you are hereby considered in breach of contract.

To that end, you are being invoiced for 50% of the cost of the dinner, pursuant to the offer. For the record, the offer presented you with the option of not going out again and paying for half of the dinner, or going out again and not paying at all. You accepted these terms, choosing to go out again, as stated above, but have since failed to deliver your end of the agreement. In that this was merely a promise to meet, and not a promise to marry, the agreement is binding under New York law and does not require a written agreement (i.e. statute of frauds).

Furthermore, this is absolutely not a joke.

Your share is 50% of $74.51 which is a total of $37.25. Payment in full is expected within 30 days.

You may remit to:

Andrew Goldberg

720 Greenwich Street, #4d

NY NY 10012