I’ve put together a few quick sneaky dating tips that might just give you the edge when it comes to dating!

1) Did you know that Men are more likely to be attracted to a woman who is wearing red?  This is because red is subconsciously associated with love, sex and romance

2) You get more sexually attracted to people when you are stressed.   This is because anxiety forces the body to release more adrenaline.  You are also more likely to take risks.

3) Study show that men prefer women with higher pitched voices.  However this is only considered more attractive if the women are demonstrating an interest in them. Another feminine characteristic is breathiness.

4) When it comes to make-up, men find a greater contrast between the darkness of the eyes and lips and the lightness of the surrounding skin the most beautiful combination.

5) Avoid alcohol.  One of the key indicators of attractiveness is asymmetry of facial features.  When we get drunk we lose the ability to spot this!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

As the UK’s leading Dating Coach, I often get told about people’s biggest dating turn offs. Sometimes they can be really small things, but there are certain key reasons that come up time and time again. If you are committing any of these dating sins then it’s time for you to do something about it!

1) Body Odour and poor personal hygiene. This frequently tops most people’s list of turn offs. Always make sure you shower, sort out your hair and smell nice if you want to attract other people.

2) Smoking. Not only is this anti-social but it gives you terrible breath and shows you don’t take your health seriously.  Interestingly enough, it seems that even smokers don’t want to date other smokers!

3) Avoiding eye contact. Always remember that eye contact is crucial so don’t stare at the floor. If you look nervous then it just gives the impression that you have something to hide.

4) Being self centred. You really don’t need to talk endlessly about yourself or stare at the mirror the whole time. Focus on the person you are dating and make them feel like the centre of your universe.

5) Negativity. There’s nothing worse than a “victim” and talking about all your problems on a date. It’s just not attractive! Instead, try and see the positive side of everything and remember to laugh and smile often.

6) Being a cheapskate. We say this time and time again but men should always pay the bill on the first date but the woman should at least offer. If you are stingy with money then you are probably stingy with your time and affection too.

7) Not having a photo on your dating profile. This is major error that many people seem to make. If you don’t have a photo or demand to see one before sending out yours, then it shows insecurity and the strong possibility that you have something to hide. Even worse are photos with sunglasses or hats. Why would you wear the hat if you had a lovely head of hair?

8 ) Being too keen/ too sexual.  There’s nothing wrong with showing that you are serious about dating but don’t take things to far or too fast.  You don’t need to jump into bed right away or make plans for the next five weekends on your first date.  Take a little time to get to know each other slowly. Give yourselves time to miss each other.

9) Not making it clear when you aren’t interested. Some people think they are being kind by not directly rejecting someone. Instead they just ignore calls, emails and texts and cut off all contact. The trouble with this is that nobody gets any closure and it just stretches it out. If you have to, be polite and honest rather than give them hope. It’s kinder in the long run!

10) Trying to change them. It can sometimes be easy to overlook the flaws in a relationship. Instead, you think that you will be able to sort them out and get them to work on the things you don’t like. Wrong! Focus on the things you do like about them. Everyone has flaws and they just make is human. If you were both perfect life could be very boring indeed.

I’d love to hear about your own dating turn offs. Add a comment on this blog or email me at james@singlesolution.com

James Preece – The Dating Guru
www.singlesolution.com

Making a great, instant first impression is key to dating success.   Here are ten of our favourite openers that you can use.

Of course, if you’ve seen a better one let us know

1) Is this Ebay?  I’m up for auction – highest bidders only!

2) New girl on the block needs a tour guide

3) Can I ask you for directions?

4) Fabulous people deserve to be together, don’t you think?

5) Towns yet to be visited, friends in need yet to be discovered, battles yet to be fought…

6) I knew you wouldn’t be able to resist!

7) 94.5% of all statistics are fabricated

8)  This is really just shopping for guys – two of my favourite things combined!

9) Experimental cook needs food taster

10) Where’s “Clever Opening Lines for Dummies” When You Need It?

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Here’s a selection of our recent feedbacks.  We’ll be regularly updating this blog page so you can see the fantastic success rates our customers have:

April 2010

“I would just like to let you know that I met my now husband not last October but the one before last at one of your events. We had a wonderful wedding on April 7th. We are eternally grateful to the singlesolution for bringing us  together. Long live the Singlesolution!

“I thoroughly enjoyed Saturday’s party which was the first I’d attended for some time” MW

“Just to let you know I am seeing someone who I met through the website!” HP

“Good Services and has helped me to find someone with my busy lifestyle”  SC

“Pretty good, as I managed to find my man on the site!” SP

“I really enjoyed using this site and found it great to meet some prospective partners. Thanks and keep up the great work.”  IM

“I think your parties are great, probably the best of all the singles parties – I would recommend them to my single friends – wishing you continued success.” SH

March 2010

“You guys rock” BP

“Well organised and very civilised events” PK

“This is a very good service and I have recommended to many of my single friends” HD

“Great site.. met a few very decent guys on your site whom I am now friends with. would definitely come back if iI was single again. Thank you!” DN

“I went to your valentine event and all the staff, the organisation, let me say, was brilliant. Thank you again, and will keep you posted!” MM

“I wanted to thank you so much for creating this website. I joined a few years back, attended a couple of events, which were unsuccessful for me. But through the website (which is great) I met my perfect match. I was beginning to think there was no one out there for me but this website proved me wrong. We are due to get married at the end of this year. Thankyou so much. S L and A P”

“Great events with professional and friendly hosts”  RH

FEB 2010

“I loved the speedate event I went to on Valentines..the first one I went to. Staff were great too. I have met someone and going to see how it goes. Thanks again. You guys have been great.” MM

“The Valentine’s event was well organised and good fun. I spoke to lots of interesting people and the speed dating was much less intimidating than I had expected. The first young lady I met was lovely, and we’ve been on a few dates since, so watch this space… To anyone thinking of whether or not to bite the bullet, do it: you never know who you might meet!” NM

“Good range of events and wide variety of people attending.” JG

“Well run, probably the best about” JM

“I met someone elsewhere but  I think your site is fantastic. Keep up the good work!”

We often hear the myth about how the online dating world is full of liars, each trying to make themselves sound better than then really are.  However, this certainly isn’t the case at all. According to a new survey by Kansas university, researchers have found that most people are honest, especially the confident ones.

The study also showed that both men and women were equal in terms of the few who did tell fibs.  Men lied about sexual partners  and women lied about their weight.

According to the study,  members  of the online dating site were no more or less likely to lie about themselves than people who find dates the old fashioned way through work, recreation or via friends.

If someone is confident and successful then they don’t need to make things up.  It was only the people who were unhappy about their life choices who steered away from the truth.

5000 Internet daters were apparently interviewed for this research…..but that could have been a lie.

Eli Finkel,  associate professor of social psychology at Northwestern University , said the study results came as little surprise:

“These findings lend empirical validation to my longstanding assumption that the typical person using modern dating approaches doesn’t differ much from the typical person using traditional dating approaches,” he said.

“There was probably a time when people using dating services were different in important ways from the general dating population,” added Finkel, “but that seems to be less and less true as modern dating approaches become increasingly popular. Online daters, speed-daters, and the like seem to be just like the rest of us in most ways. That this intuition extends to truth-telling among online daters is important validation of that general point.”

From our own experience, the biggest lie people seem to tell is about age.  It can seem easy to shave a year or two off in the hope of netting someone more useful.  Just remember that one day you’ll have to admit the truth and it could instantly ruin any trust you’ve built.  It’s better to be honest from the outset so you don’t need to keep worrying about being found out.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Here’s an interesting thing that we’ve noticed.  Its seems that some people get lots of interest and get lots of emails……only to never reply to them!

What we’d really like you to do is at least reply to more of these people, even if its to say “thanks but no thanks.” It’s just plain old courtesy.  To make this easy for you we even  have standard responses such as “thanks but I’m not looking at the moment”  or “You aren’t my type.”  It only takes a few seconds and they’ll at least know that you have acknowledged there existence.

Some people don’t reply because they don’t want to have to pay for the service which is quite strange. If you aren’t serious about meeting someone then why fill out your profile in the first place? If you start making the effort and communicating with people then you’ll soon start making new friends and lining up dates.  If you want to learn to swim you have to start by putting your toe in the water after all!

We also advise sending a credit with a message to make sure the recipient can read it just in case they are new the site.  Oh and don’t worry, if you do send a credit they can only reply to your message, not save it to contact someone else!

If you really aren’t interested in making contact with anyone or are perhaps currently dating then it might be a better idea to hide your profile.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

We had a fantastic party last Saturday which took place at the Abbey in Victoria.   With over 200 guests in attendance it was very busy and it was nice to see some old faces as well as lots of new ones.

One of these new faces was our new magician Graeme who proved very popular during the evening.  His close up magic proved to be a great icebreaker and you’ll be pleased to hear he’ll be back to entertain you again soon.

The Abbey always proves to be one our most popular venues and we’ll be returning there in May.  In the meantime we have lots of other parties that you’ll love including our 40s plus social night at the Punch Tavern and our next 30s to mid 40s event at the Slug and Lettuce.

Here are some photos from the night:

See you soon,
James Preece

www.singlesolution.com

There’s a well known saying that you’ll find love when you stop trying and don’t expect it.   People say that if you just forget about finding someone then they’ll find you anyway.

So should you stop looking?

My advice is absolutely not!  While I do believe it’s true to a certain extent, it’s also a fantastic excuse to do refuse responsibility.  If you are a happy, positive frame of mind and ready for love then it will come your way. The big secret is that you do have to give it a helping hand.

If you want to get something in life, whether it’s love, money, a new job or even a holiday then you need to take action.   For example, if you’d like a new job then you’d polish up your CV, send it out to prospective employees and attend some interviews.   You just wouldn’t sit back, do nothing and wait for one to find you.  Event if one magically does then you can guarantee it won’t be the best one you could possibly dream of.

So what should you do?  Well as well as the obvious things like going out on dates, why not try and do more for yourself.   Use your spare time to go out and get a new haircut, hit the gym or buy some new outfits.  Take the chance to sign up to learn some new skills, such as dancing or cooking. They will all help you feel and look amazing, which will therefore make it easier to meet someone wonderful.  If you enjoy your life and enjoy being who are then others will naturally want to share it with you.

The bottom line is this: Love will find you in the end but you need to help it along the way by being open and ready for it!

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com