Is something hold you back from you getting success at dating?
We take a look the ways some people can sabotage themselves on a date and how they can fix this.
First of all, you need to work out what exactly you are doing wrong. Then it can be easy enough to put things right.
This can usually fall in to one of three things:
Too Needy, Too Negative or Too Picky
You are so desperate to get a partner that you accept anyone who shows any interest. You go out on dates purely for the sake of dating and often end up sleeping with anyone who pays you any attention. You get upset and angry when you don’t hear back from the straight away and ruin possible relationships by being too keen or demanding.
Sometimes you think that this person will be able to fix your life or you’ll overlook major issues thinking that you can change them yourself.
The Cure: Take a step back. If you need to, have a break from dating and only ever date someone you think you really will have a great future with.
You’ve had some bad experiences in the past and don’t want to let yourself get hurt again. Therefore you focus on your past rather than looking to your future.
Your date doesn’t want to hear about how bad your life is or hear about your faults and insecurities.
The Cure: Challenge yourself to be positive. Wear something that you feel great in and keep your body language upbeat and friendly. Work out all the things in life that you enjoy and that are going well for you. Everyone is different so don’t expect them to treat you the same as your ex.
3) Too Picky
Nobody is able to meet your high standards and as such you won’t give anyone a chance. You’ll come across as rude and defensive rather than a possible partner. Perhaps you won’t make the effort on a date as you’ve already decided it’s not going to go anywhere before you’ve even met.
The Cure: Take the opportunity to find out more about your date. What do you have in common? Are you enjoying their company? Above all, work out what really is important to you and let anything else go. You aren’t perfect so why would they be?
James Preece – The Dating Guru