In today’s blog I’m be talking about the enigma of the Alpha Male.

So what IS an Alpha Male?

This term is usually used to refer to a man who is powerful or in a high social position

In nature, attraction between mates is determined by the survival of the fittest philosophy. The mate that is chosen is the one that is most likely to breed strong, healthy offspring. In many animal societies the alpha male will be the only male in the pack, and it will be his job to impregnate the females in order for the species to survive.

So in dating, the alpha tends to be the one who gets all the women!

However, contrary to popular belief, this isn’t through being rude, arrogant, macho or cocky. Instead, here are the five best ways you can learn to become and Alpha Male:

1) Be Confident. This is the number quality that a woman will look for in a man so it’s the key thing all Alpha Men possess. Be relaxed and comfortable in your surroundings. It always help to dress up whenever you go out as it gives the impression you are high status and sure of yourself.

2) Be Masculine. Show off your muscles, achievements, or skills to get people to think of you as dominant. Know who you are and never be afraid to express your true personality. An Alpha man Doesn’t fear doesnt’ care what other think of him or of being judged.

3) Take the lead. As an Alpha Male, you need to take control. In fact, most women expect it as they they want to be looked after. For example, don’t ask where they would like to go on a date – but surprise them instead.

4) Know what you are worth. Respect yourself. you value yourself as equal to or above everyone else including any girl you approach. You need women to realise that you have a lot more to offer than other men and they need to be the ones to impress you.

5) Don’t be too serious. As always, dating is about fun. You need to demonstrate that you have a good, almost cheeky sense of humour.

If you’d like to know more about becoming an Alpha Male, I recommend this fantastic guide:

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Before you begin searching for people to date, there is very important thing you need to do.

You need to get yourself into the right state of mind!

Many people have unresolved issues from the past.  This can make your wary of starting new relationships.  So my advice is to leave the past where it is  and concentrate on the future instead.  The events in your past made you the person you are today and you should always be proud of that.

It’s not just the past that can stop you from succeeding but also self-sabotaging your love life but staying in an unhappy relationship.  This is usually because you enjoy the ego boost or would rather be with “anyone” than be alone.

For example, perhaps you are seeing someone who isn’t ready to commit to the relationship.  If you something more
long term and defined then you should work out if they will ever change their minds.  If not, you should end things
immediately and not waste any more time on them. The same goes for any negative aspect of a relationship, whether
it’s cheating, verbal abuse or laziness .  End it right now. They are simply holding you back from being completely happy.

You will never meet Mr or Miss Right if you aren’t ready to give them 100% of your love, time or attention.

So get rid of any baggage, get shot of your fears and open yourself up to the wonderful new possibilities that will arise.

They are waiting for you – you just have to be ready to accept them into your life.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Want to be able to spot a liar?

We’ll teach you how in today’s blog.

It’s often useful to be able to spot when someone is lying especially when it comes to dating.  A few small fibs are natural but some people have something to hide and lie to disguise it.    Here are our tips on how to spot the signs they arent being honest with you.

1) Liars will play with try to  put an ostruction between themselves and the other person as subconscious way of attempting to build up a defence.  So watch out if they start moving wine glasses, cups or salt shakers around the table.

2) Adrenalin rushes through the body when people are fibbing, which can mean they blink a lot more and their eyes dilate.

3) A genuine smile involves the slight crinkling of eyes and only lasts for less than five seconds. A fake smile doesn’t involve the eyes at at all and can go on much longer.  They may also look a little more “glassy eyed” as if they are trying to stare right through you.

4) Watch out for their facial expressions and see if they match what they are saying, as they are hard to hide.  For example,  are they saying they are excited and happy, but their face is unsmiling and serious?

5)  Listen very carefully. Liars will tend to overcomplicate their stories and specify every little detail.

They do this so they won’t be asked too many questions after.   Listen out for exact timings and place names that most people would gloss over.

The same rules apply for spotting lies as for any other body language – you need to look for several signs together to be certain.

We all scratch our noses or shuffle our feet, so don’t be too quick to judge!

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Everyone knows that first impressions are hard to change, so today’s blog is about one of the best ways to make a good one.

Dressing to Impress.

We pride ourselves at the Single Solution on having the very best, most professional members.   That’s why we insist that everyone makes an effort when attending our events.  You need to be aware of the messages that you are sending out from your clothing choices. A few small changes  can dramatically increase your dating success.

By dressing well, you’ll not only look better but will feel more attractive too.

So what does “smart casual” actually mean?

Well it’s quite simple really.  Just wear something comfortable that is somewhere between smart, that you might wear to work or to a wedding, and casual pub gear.

The idea is to get noticed and so if you lean towards glamorous, that is fine too and  it’s unlikely that you can over dress as long as you feel comfortable. What we don’t recommend are  tuxedos and ball gowns. We do insist that our guests don’t wear trainers, t-shirts or shorts.

Always wear things that show your best features and hide your worst!

Guide for Men

For men this might mean, cords, smart non-blue jeans or chinos and casual shirt with a collar but no tie. A jacket is a bonus and may help compensate for blue jeans. Shoe choice is important. Brogues, slip ons or off-black colours such as brown would be perfect but black is fine too. Big no-nos would be trainers, collarless t-shirts,  tracksuits. Anything with a slogan on would be considered too casual. Suit and tie is great if you feel comfortable, but the tie is probably not needed. To ensure you look like you made an effort all clothes should of course be clean and pressed.

Guide for Women

For ladies there is a little more flexibility as ladies have the option to wear less to look sexy, whereas for men, this just isn’t an option. For example if you have the figure for it you’ll look great in a cocktail dress and heels. Most people might opt for a more conservative look with Smart slacks or skirt and blouse. Non-blue jeans are fine but blue jeans are not ideal unless you offset with smart shoes and top. No-nos would be trainers, sports wear or baggy tops with slogans.

These rules apply for our singles parties but also are very important when going out on dates too.  Studies have shown that 70% of singles would chose not to see someone again if they dressed badly on a first date.

We hate turning guests away from events, especially once they’ve already booked and turned up at the venue. So make sure you follow the guidelines here.

These are also the conditions of many of our venues too, which might be smart bars, hotels or restaurants.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com