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Archive for September, 2010
We all know how important it is to make a great first impression.
But how often do you think about making an amazing last one?
You’ll meet many people at a singles party, often in quick succession. So you’ll need to make an impact and then leave them wanting more.
The rules are exactly the same. Make sure you smile, engage eye contact, have a firm handshake
and do your best to show interest. The secret is to make them feel important and that you’ve really enjoyed spending time with them. Even if you haven’t and can’t wait to get away then there’s no harm in ending it on a high anyway.
Business cards are also extremely important as they are a fantastic “reminder” of you once you’ve gone. They are cheap to get made and a little investment will help you reap big rewards later. If it looks good they are much more likely to hang on to it. Include your contact details and a photo if possible. This will ensure they remember you the next day! At the very least, get an email address from them as most people are not as wary about giving this out as a phone number.
If you like someone, try and arrange a date there and then. Ask them what steps you can both take to make sure it happens. Whatever you do, exchange contact details or you’ll have no way of reaching them again.
If it’s quite late in the event then there’s no harm is suggesting you leave and go and find something to eat together. Obviously
this tactic won’t work if they have only just arrived, but it can often be the perfect way to end the evening.
Make sure you follow up the next day. Don’t play games waiting around to give the impression you are busy, but call them them
and invite them out.
James Preece – The Dating Guru
Why do so many celebrities feel the need to cheat on their partners?
Not a week goes by without yet another celebrity being exposed as cheating on his partner. If it’s not full blown cheating, it’s naked photos by text or saucy emails. So what makes famous, successful people with amazing wives and girlfriends feel they have to spoil things?
Should we accept that this is just part and parcel of being a celebrity?
Being cheated on is a horrible experience if it happens to you. It can shake up your world and stop you from trusting people ever again. If you get cheated on then it make you realise that what you thought was true was actually a lie. It’s a nasty, lonely feeling.
Recent statistics estimate that â€œ60 percent of men and 40 percent of women will have an extramarital affair.” That’s a shocking statistic and the more celebrities that get caught will only lead to other men thinking it’s acceptable. They just want to be like their heros so follow the examples they might set.
So why is this so common with celebrities?
There can be various reasons that they might justify their behaviour:
1) Too many offers
Money, power and privilege can be dangerous to relationship. They are in the public eye so much that women throw themselves at them day in day out, so it gets harder and harder to turn them down. To make things worse, their friends or teammates actively encourage them to play the field.
2) Crave Attention and Affection
Many celebrities need to have their egos constantly stroked and badly want the attention. They could even argue that any publicity is good publicity.
3) They have earned it
Sometimes they believe that they can do what they want as the entitlement by the very nature of being a “celebrity.”
4) Above the Law
Celebrities may cheat because they feel that their spouse will stay with them â€œno matter whatâ€ just because of who they are and what they might risk losing. This is usually money and media attention.
5) Getting away with it. The problem with cheating is that it gets a little easier each time they do it.
So what do you think? Should cheating celebrities deserve another chance? Please take a second to enter our survey – and do add your own thoughts to this blog.
James Preece â€“ the Dating Guru
We have so many lovely members and want you to have fun meeting them.
However, every now and again we find someone not playing by the rules.
This is true on all dating sites and in every aspect of life, but that doesn’t mean we don’t take it seriously.
We really do have to rely on you, our customers, to let us know when someone isn’t behaving on the site.
You are our eyes and ears. While we can monitor messages on our site, it’s out of our hands once you decide to talk on the phone or go on dates.
As you are the ones dating, you are the ones who need to tip us off if you have a bad experience. We don’t tolerate rudeness or offensive behaviour from any of our members and we expect everyone to be respectful and considerate.
If you have a bad experience, please don’t let if put you off. There are 1000s and 1000s of decent people on our website and we’d hate you to miss out on meeting them.
Don’t judge them by the poor behaviour of one individual.
Every day we get wonderful feedbacks which show that our members are not only genuine but meeting partners through our website.
We are NOT a casual dating site, but one that helps bring people together for serious, quality relationships.
So please do let us know if you come across one rotten apple. If they have posted something inappropriate in their profile or aren’t what they seem in real life then we need to know about it. We’ll always suspend ( and ban if necessary) unsuitable people on our sites, especially if we have several complaints.
All you need to do is let us know!
James Preece – The Dating Guru
We had a email today that we wanted to share with you all.
It’s a fantastic success story that just goes to show our event really do work.
It comes from one of our regular members who has attended quite a few of our events over the years.
“Hi James (and Paul),
I met a gorgeous girl at your party on February 13 and we’ve been going out ever since. In fact we just got back from a holiday together. I suppose I should cancel my membership of your web site – I only go there to read your blog now. Thanks for everything you’ve done for me.”
This is brilliant news as he’s stuck with us and never given up. Some people will come once and then never sign up again as they didn’t meet anyone. You really can’t expect to meet someone through a couple of events. Yes, it does happen but dating is such a numbers came that should always try to increase your odds and attend as many parties as possible.
Remember this: If you go to the gym once or twice you won’t get fit – but keeping sticking at it and you’ll get the results you want. It’s like most things in life – the quitters never get anywhere.
We wish them all the very best.
James Preece – The Dating Guru