Valentine’s Day is almost here.

Here’s my advice so you can get through it!

It really doesn’t need to be depressing if you are single.  In fact, it can be the best day of the year if you in the right mindset.

Here are some top tips to help you get the most out of it:

1) Instead of feeling frustrated for not having a significant other to spend the day, singles can spend Valentine’s Day in a constructive manner by expressing love and affection for people around them.  Be greatful for the people you have in your life, not the ones you don’t.

2) Be your own Valentine.  Give yourself a special treat, such as booking a spa session, cooking your favourite meal or buy a new outfit. You need to be able to love yourself before you can ever truly anyone else.

3) Do not define yourself by your relationship status. Your relationship status is not your identity!

4) For the ultimate feelgood factor, do something great for somebody else.  You’ll feel amazing if you go out of your way to help another person. Perhaps you could have tea with a lonely elderly relative or donate your time to a local charity.

5) Get out there and enjoy yourself.  Valentine’s Day if probably THE best day of the year for singles.  You’ll have more free cash, more time and less pressure than couples, so make the most of it!  Get your other single friends together and hit the bars where all the other singles will be partying.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

P.s The Single Solution will be running three London Valentine’s Parties.

Sat 12th February 2011 – 3os to mid 40s

Tues 15th  February 2011 – 20s to mid 30s

Sat 19th February 2011  – 40s Plus

Here’s a recent email I got, asking for some advice.

Have a read and tell me if it sounds familiar.
“Dear James,

I recently attended one of your singles parties.   Apart from your hosts, nobody came up to me and I didn’t meet anyone.  Everyone seemed to be having a fantastic time but I was left in the far corner of the room feeling miserable. In fact, I had such a horrible time that I left after 20 minutes.     What did I do wrong?
R”

Dear R,

Thank you for your email.  I remember speaking to you on the evening.  I can give you some clear indicators of where you went wrong:

1) You kept your coat on.   This makes you look unapproachable.  You are there for an entire evening, so why not relax and use the cloakroom?

2) You didn’t smile.   If you look annoyed and moody then people won’t come up to you.  Remember to smile all the time and use open body language.

3) You didn’t approach anyone.  It’s up to you to go over and say hello to people, not wait for them.  Otherwise someone else will step in and talk to the people YOU are interested in.

4) You didn’t accept help.  We have lots of hosts at the event who are there just to help you.  Ask them if you need anything at all or want some introductions.

5) You gave up too soon.    How do you know that Mr Right didn’t walk in 2 minutes after you left?

Always attend the parties with a plan to just have a good time, not necessarily to meet a new partner. That way you’ll never fail as you in control of your own emotions.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Here’s another quick sneaky tip for you

I’ll show you how to make sure more of your emails get read.

Some people get lots of emails so it’s important to make sure yours stands out from the rest.  That way you know it will be read first.

So what do you to catch their attention?  It’s simple really.  Take a look at their user name and if they’ve used their real name then make a note of it.

Then all you need to do is put this in the subject line.

When they go to their inbox and see it looking like this, which email do you think they will open first?

Hey

Hi

Hello

Hi Suzy!

Hello there

Good day

It’s human nature to feel a “connection” if you see your name written down.  It makes you want to open it quickly to see if they actually know you.  By doing so you’ve helped form a subconscious bond before you’ve even started talking.

Of course , not everyone will use their real name so you can’t always do this.  However, they’ll sometimes sign off with their real first name at the end of their profile too, so play close attention to that.

Give it a try and see if you notice a difference.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Are you making this huge online dating mistake?

Make sure you read this blog to find out if you wasting your time.

Many people cut corners and try to avoid putting any effort in when you first join an online dating site.  All that profile writing, searching and emailling.  So to save time, instead they’ll bang out a quick two line message to anyone that takes their fancy,  being sure to include their phone number or email address in the message.

Let’s try and see this in different scenatio.  You are in a busy bar but want to find a hot date.  Would you really just rush around the room, handing out bits of paper with your phone number on them?

What do you think the success rate is of this strategy?

The secret is to engage with each person individually, flirt with them, make them them feel special and build up trust.  Only then can you exchange numbers.  It’s the same formula you need to stick to when it comes to dating online.  If you just send a phone number and no personal message it will be deleted and you’ll be forever classed as a weirdo.

Remember, you’ll get out of it what you put in and you need to put some effort in to get the dates you want.   The difference is that you’ll get the results so much quicker if you do it properly from the start!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

2011 is already here, where did 2010 go?

Life goes so quickly, but the new year is all about new starts.

Many people make a resolution to find someone special, so dating sites always have their busiest periods in January.

If you’ve made a decision that this will finally be the year you meet someone,  then here are our top Five resolutions you should make.

Remember to just start with one or two as if you take on too many you won’t be able to stick to them all.

1) Get yourself out there.   This is the most important resolution you must make….so make it now.  You won’t meet anyone sat at home so start lining up dates and attending our singles parties.

2) Focus on what’s good about you, rather than what isn’t.  We all have different things to offer. So what’s special about you?

3) Be open to all opportunities and accept all invites.  You’ll be amazed what happens when start to say “yes.”

4) Forget the past.  Stop thinking about previous partners and comparing new ones to them.

5) Give them a chance.  If you one “iffy” date but think there might still be the chance of a spark then don’t give up on them.

If you have any questions or need some help then please don’t hesitate to ask.

To your dating success!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Dear SS,

I thought you might want to hear our success story. Myself BobM and CatinLondon met at one of your events on 15 August 2009. All went very well and we were married in Interlaken, Switzerland on 4 September this year. A photo is attached.

Best wishes

Another Single Solution Success Story

It goes without saying that all the SingleSolution.com team wish the happy couple all the best for 2011 and for the future.