We all know that keeping fit is good for you.

But it can also help you get lots more dates.

Obviously looking good is going to help you get more dates.  You’ll have more energy if you regularly work out and people will notice your toned, defined body shape.  As well as this you’ll get the chance to interact with lots of others singles.

However, did you know that going to the gym, or any sort of activity that gets your heart beating can increase your confidence?

This is because the body releases a huge variety of chemicals whenever you exercise.  These will make you feel amazing and work in helping you feel much more sexy and confident.

These chemicals include:

Endorphins:  The combat pain and give you a natural high

Noradrenaline/ norepinephrine (NE):  Morphine like chemical that fights pain and makes you feel more confident.

Serotonin:  This increases the feeling of happiness in the brain.

Phenylethylamine ( PEA):  This is the chemical that’s found in chocolate and is a very powerful anti-depressant.
When you exert a little effort you are unleashing all these wonderful chemicals to boost your mood.  You’ll feel ready to face the world, much more confident and so much happier. Others will see this and you’ll soon be getting more dates.

So what better excuse do you need to dig your trainers out from the back of the cupboard and head to the gym?   In fact, I’d even suggest you go for a run or a light workout before you have a date.  Just make sure you have a shower first!

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Here’s a common dating turn off: Swearing

If you’ve doing this then you need to stop right now! Swearing isn’t sexy!

It’s a common scenario.  You’ve arrange to meet for a date and are really looking forward to meeting the new person.   But when you sit down for a drink or a meal they can’t stop themselves from using obscene language.  It’s a turn off for most people.   You wouldn’t do it if you were going for a job interview or meeting your gran for afternoon tea would you? So what makes you think it’s appropriate on a date.

If you accidentally let out a mild rude word or two then don’t worry too much about it.  It’s when you constantly punctuate your conversation with them that you need to think more carefully.   Sometimes it’s easy to get carried away and use overtly sexual terms just to get a reaction.  Everyone swears in different amounts – from almost never  to full blown drunken sailor swearing.  So err on the side of caution and avoid anyone taking offence.

If you hear your date swearing then don’t be tempted to do the same just to make them like you.   It will only bring you down to the same level and if you continue to see each other it will be impossible to stop them in future.   What might be acceptable with your friends is never “OK” on a date.  You want to present the best possible version of yourself at all times to make a last impression.  So act like a gentleman or a lady.

It’s also worth pointing out that rudeness is just as bad.    ALWAYS be polite and friendly to waiters, cloakroom staff and anyone you meet during the date.  If you are mean, sarcastic or arrogant then that’s the quickest way to making sure you don’t get another date.

This doesn’t just apply to face to face meetings but also to your online encounters.   Never try to spice up your profile or messages with obscenities and stay clear of this with online chat too.  If someone upsets or offends you don’t be tempted to respond rudely just to retaliate.    Instead,  delete the message, block their profile and carry on.  They weren’t worth it anyway!

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolutioncom

Does your boyfriend/girlfriend pay more attention to others than to you?

What’s acceptable behaviour and what crosses the line?

Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop finding other people attractive.  However, it’s a thin line between an appreciative glance and a perverted leer.

I’d suggest that as long as they don’t do it when they are with you then it’s OK.  After all, it’s human nature to get pleasure from looking at nice things.  It doesn’t mean they don’t love you or don’t want to be with you.

We all admire or drool over certain celebrities, but remember they have mostly been airbrushed to look their best.  Don’t feel that you are inferior to them as it’s usually taken a whole team to make them look that good!

Sometimes we can’t help ourselves from looking if we get caught by surprise.  This could be a girl in a short dress or a perhaps a guy in a tight pair of trousers.   You can’t do anything about this so don’t dwell on it.  You’d probably act in the same way if you weren’t thinking about it.

Some people do need to learn when this behaviour is pushing the limits though.  If you find they are doing it all the time then this can be very upsetting as well as disrespectful.  So if it’s a problem say something to them.  They might accuse you of overreacting or of being jealous for no reason, but make it clear about how you feel.  Don’t issue an ultimatum just yet, but ask them to tone it down.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Every day can bring a new chance to meet someone

But are you maximising your opportunities?

I recently read how a well known Supermarket was going to start running speed dating events, on a smaller scale to what the Single Solution already do.
This is because they’d heard that so many people met just by shopping. Everyone has to visit them on a weekly, if not daily basis, so they really could be a great way to meet.

Here are my Dating Guru thoughts on this:

1) Do people need to be more aware of flirting opportunities in their daily life?

Absolutely, every day is a chance to flirt! Don’t think of it as a chore, but something to make your day brighter. Even if you just smile and say hello then you can make the other person’s day.

2) Are people good at flirting with people in supermarkets etc?

Some people are better than others. The best flirts are babies as they’ll smile at anyone to get their attention and you’ll see this in supermarkets when they are being pushed around.
So it’s something we can all do but have sometimes forgotten about. Many people would love the chance for a conversation but are too shy to start one themselves.

3) Can someone really find the love of their life in as supermarket?

You can find love anywhere and it’s easy to spot who is single in a supermarket – just look at the amount of food they are buying. If it’s one small basket they are probably just cooking for themselves. Supermarkets can provide lots of ways to break the ice and get conversations started. For example, you could comment about something in their trolley or ask about a recipe. Nobody likes to appear rude so most people will generally respond well if you ask for advice. You can even offer it yourself if you see someone staring at a packet or looking lost.

4) What tips do you have for someone looking to find love?

Be prepared to take a little risk. You won’t meet anybody if you don’t put yourself out there. Glam yourself up so you feel confident and look your best, then go out with a big friendly smile.

There are lots of other opportunities to meet singles and the Single Solution run weekly dating events to help you. It’s always great to be single as you can talk to anyone you like!

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com