Dear SS,

I thought you might want to hear our success story. Myself BobM and CatinLondon met at one of your events on 15 August 2009. All went very well and we were married in Interlaken, Switzerland on 4 September this year. A photo is attached.

Best wishes

Another Single Solution Success Story

It goes without saying that all the SingleSolution.com team wish the happy couple all the best for 2011 and for the future.

We all know there are thousands of online dating sites out there.

But did you know that most of them are in fact, exactly the same?

Many dating websites are what is known as “white label.”  This means that while they appear to be completely different, they share the same database.

You can think of it as thousands of different doors all opening into the same room.   There are dedicated companies out there who offer a free  service  to individuals or brand to set up their own dating sites.  By doing this, they don’t have to invest in creating the technology and infrastructure itself.   By doing this, absolutely any can launch their own dating site in minutes.

This can often mean people are fooled into paying several times to contact the same group of people.  Not many people realise, but the two biggest UK online dating sites are actually run by the same company and have the same members.  The other major disadvantage is that all these companies are trying to sign up the same customers. 

At the Single Solution, our database is unique to us.   Nobody else has access to it and there’s only one, clear way to see it.

We do of course have two other major sites -  www.asiansinglesolution.com  and www.muslimsinglesolution.com  

Each site has it’s own defined database and each one is completely separate with it’s own membership and events systems.

Some people do choose to be on more than one site, if applicable but they need to create new profiles for each one.  We spend huge amounts of time and money attracting new members to our sites and making sure everyone has a fantastic user experiences.      We also get to know many of our members personally when they start to attend events.   No other site will offer the help and support we provide.

The bottom line is that if want results, stick to a tried and trusted brand like Singlesolution.com, rather than wasting your efforts on a dating site that you’ve never heard of!

Happy dating,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

We love to innovate and are never afraid to try new things.

But what would YOU like us to try next ?

After the huge success of our recent Halloween, Birthday and Summer of Love parties, we are already planning our Christmas, NYE and 2011 parties.   As you know, we’ve been trying lots of new things to make the events more exciting.  These include burlesque dancers, magicians, new ice breaking games and a regular DJ for the larger events.

We’d love to hear your thoughts on this and see if you have any ideas for other things we can try.    Remember, they need to be things that both men and women will enjoy equally.

We’ve also run lots more Premium Members events this year, including theatre trips, casino nights and wine tastings.  Is there anything else you’d like to see us run?

Please do drop us an email with your thoughts to  info@singlesolution.com      Alternatively, you can add a comment to this post.

It’s only by our customers letting us know that we can continue to run the best singles events in London!

Happy dating,
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

As you have no doubt noticed, we are writing more and more blogs for our members.

We’d love to know what you think and for you to get more involved.  Blogs are a discussion forum so please do take a minute to comment on anything you might find interesting.

If you have anything you’d like us to write about then please let us know.

We’d especially like to help you with any dating problems or questions that you have.  Remember we are dating experts and always happy to help!

Also, if you would like to get your own writing featured then please send it to us directly at   info@singlesolution.com

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

I’ve already had a fantastic response to my earlier blog today, when I talked about meeting new people each day.

ChitChatBingo have sent me the results of a survey which confirms this:

Brits find romance, friends and even business partners in queues

People say we’re cold and reserved, but in fact most Brits are happy to make small talk with strangers, with around half of us indulging our chat-habit twice a week at least (49%) according to national research by ChitChat Bingo.

So friendly are we that 16 per cent of Brits have even found romance through small talk, with a third making new friends and 3 per cent even identified a business partner.

Queues were far and away the most popular place to strike up a conversation for 35 per cent of us – even more than the quarter of us who like a good natter at work.  Bars might be popular for men, 14 per cent of whom say this is the best spot to chat to strangers; but their chances of chatting up a woman are slim as only 5 per cent of them admit to chatting with strangers in bars.  The worst place to try out your lines on a stranger is a lift, which appears to be a no-go area for all but 2 per cent of us.

The research shows that young people are most likely to engage in an impromptu chat with a stranger (92% will chat up strangers at least once a week) whereas 50 per cent of the older generation love to chat in a queue.

1.    It brightens my day     56%
2.    I’ve made friends    33%
3.    None, I loathe it    17%
4.    I found romance    11%
5.    I married someone    5%
6.    I found a business partner     3%
7.    I won money!    1%

Lee Knott, head of marketing services, said “Chat is one of the great pleasures of life, but who’d have thought it was so beneficial?  It seems that the grouchy 17% who say they ‘loathe small talk’ are missing a lot.”

Research was conducted with 1,000 adults by YourSayPays and ChitChat Bingo.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

The Single Solution ran a very special event last night – a Medieval Banquet in Tower Hill.

Set in the atmospheric candle lit cellars  in St Katherine’s docks, our guests were invited to step back in time.

We were welcomed by jugglers, lute players and a Beefeater who made sure we were kept entertained.

Dressing up in historical costume was encouraged and a couple of our guests took this opportunity. The Single Solution’s Paul was transformed into “Sir Paul of Osbourne” with a rather fetching Royal Robe.

Endless flaggons of ale and  wine were brought to the table by serving wenches, which were enjoyed by all the guests.

The banquet itself was a feast to the eyes with such delights as cold meats, roast chicken, freshly baked bread and the finest fruit tarts.

Much fun was had while we ate and drank, including dancers, singers, sword fighters and a visit from King Henry 8th himself.

Afterwards, the cellars were transformed into a disco so everyone had the opportunity to dance and work off some of the amazing food and drink.

We always try to provide new events experiences to shake up the dating world, so keep an eye on the website to see what we have in store for you next!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

I often get messages asking where emails have disappeared to on the site.

Well, in order to keep things running smoothly, messages are automatically deleted after 60 days.

However, if the other person deletes the message, or deletes their profile, the the message will also disappear from your inbox/sent.

It’s worth noting that messages in bold haven’t been read yet.  This is usually because they’ve not yet logged in or aren’t able to read messages as they don’t have credits or a membership.

If you are keen to hear from them, it’s always worth sending another message “reply paid” as that might encourage them to write back!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singesolution.com

Making a great, instant first impression is key to dating success.   Here are ten of our favourite openers that you can use.

Of course, if you’ve seen a better one let us know

1) Is this Ebay?  I’m up for auction – highest bidders only!

2) New girl on the block needs a tour guide

3) Can I ask you for directions?

4) Fabulous people deserve to be together, don’t you think?

5) Towns yet to be visited, friends in need yet to be discovered, battles yet to be fought…

6) I knew you wouldn’t be able to resist!

7) 94.5% of all statistics are fabricated

8)  This is really just shopping for guys – two of my favourite things combined!

9) Experimental cook needs food taster

10) Where’s “Clever Opening Lines for Dummies” When You Need It?

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

We often hear the myth about how the online dating world is full of liars, each trying to make themselves sound better than then really are.  However, this certainly isn’t the case at all. According to a new survey by Kansas university, researchers have found that most people are honest, especially the confident ones.

The study also showed that both men and women were equal in terms of the few who did tell fibs.  Men lied about sexual partners  and women lied about their weight.

According to the study,  members  of the online dating site were no more or less likely to lie about themselves than people who find dates the old fashioned way through work, recreation or via friends.

If someone is confident and successful then they don’t need to make things up.  It was only the people who were unhappy about their life choices who steered away from the truth.

5000 Internet daters were apparently interviewed for this research…..but that could have been a lie.

Eli Finkel,  associate professor of social psychology at Northwestern University , said the study results came as little surprise:

“These findings lend empirical validation to my longstanding assumption that the typical person using modern dating approaches doesn’t differ much from the typical person using traditional dating approaches,” he said.

“There was probably a time when people using dating services were different in important ways from the general dating population,” added Finkel, “but that seems to be less and less true as modern dating approaches become increasingly popular. Online daters, speed-daters, and the like seem to be just like the rest of us in most ways. That this intuition extends to truth-telling among online daters is important validation of that general point.”

From our own experience, the biggest lie people seem to tell is about age.  It can seem easy to shave a year or two off in the hope of netting someone more useful.  Just remember that one day you’ll have to admit the truth and it could instantly ruin any trust you’ve built.  It’s better to be honest from the outset so you don’t need to keep worrying about being found out.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

There’s a well known saying that you’ll find love when you stop trying and don’t expect it.   People say that if you just forget about finding someone then they’ll find you anyway.

So should you stop looking?

My advice is absolutely not!  While I do believe it’s true to a certain extent, it’s also a fantastic excuse to do refuse responsibility.  If you are a happy, positive frame of mind and ready for love then it will come your way. The big secret is that you do have to give it a helping hand.

If you want to get something in life, whether it’s love, money, a new job or even a holiday then you need to take action.   For example, if you’d like a new job then you’d polish up your CV, send it out to prospective employees and attend some interviews.   You just wouldn’t sit back, do nothing and wait for one to find you.  Event if one magically does then you can guarantee it won’t be the best one you could possibly dream of.

So what should you do?  Well as well as the obvious things like going out on dates, why not try and do more for yourself.   Use your spare time to go out and get a new haircut, hit the gym or buy some new outfits.  Take the chance to sign up to learn some new skills, such as dancing or cooking. They will all help you feel and look amazing, which will therefore make it easier to meet someone wonderful.  If you enjoy your life and enjoy being who are then others will naturally want to share it with you.

The bottom line is this: Love will find you in the end but you need to help it along the way by being open and ready for it!

Good luck,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com