Here’s a recent email I got, asking for some advice.

Have a read and tell me if it sounds familiar.
“Dear James,

I recently attended one of your singles parties.   Apart from your hosts, nobody came up to me and I didn’t meet anyone.  Everyone seemed to be having a fantastic time but I was left in the far corner of the room feeling miserable. In fact, I had such a horrible time that I left after 20 minutes.     What did I do wrong?
R”

Dear R,

Thank you for your email.  I remember speaking to you on the evening.  I can give you some clear indicators of where you went wrong:

1) You kept your coat on.   This makes you look unapproachable.  You are there for an entire evening, so why not relax and use the cloakroom?

2) You didn’t smile.   If you look annoyed and moody then people won’t come up to you.  Remember to smile all the time and use open body language.

3) You didn’t approach anyone.  It’s up to you to go over and say hello to people, not wait for them.  Otherwise someone else will step in and talk to the people YOU are interested in.

4) You didn’t accept help.  We have lots of hosts at the event who are there just to help you.  Ask them if you need anything at all or want some introductions.

5) You gave up too soon.    How do you know that Mr Right didn’t walk in 2 minutes after you left?

Always attend the parties with a plan to just have a good time, not necessarily to meet a new partner. That way you’ll never fail as you in control of your own emotions.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

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