Here is this week’s dating problem

By our Dating Coach and Dating Expert

Dear James, I’ve been with my boyfriend for around a year and a half, and the other day he told me he was fed up of the same old routines in life. He has been stuck in the same job for 2 years, and I understand that he might not be fulfilling his career needs but he said it was a bit of everything that was getting him down.

I asked him if it was anything to do with me, or our relationship and he said he didn’t know and that he needs time to think about things. I don’t understand why he is suddenly feeling like this, and I’m worried that he might just be saying that he is fed up of everything, rather than admitting he is actually fed up of me.

I don’t want to lose him, what am i supposed to do?

Here’s my reply:

It’s a horrible situation but it might not be as bad as you imagine.  He’s found himself stuck in a rut and become fed up with life. As such he’s become depressed and associates everything (including you) with his miserable feelings.

If you don’t want him to get worse and risk your relationship then you need to do all you can to snap him out of it.  If he hates his job then encourage him to quit it and find something he enjoys. Life is too short do spend so long doing something he hates.  It might be tough for a while but his quality of life will improve and so will his mood.

You can also help by giving him things to look forward to – perhaps some nights out, special meals in or a weekend away somewhere. A change of scenery and some time away from his normal routines might just do the trick.

If you have your own dating dilemma or problem then get in touch.  I will answer the best ones in the blog.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

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