I’ve been asked to write about other types of dating that you can try. In today’s blog I’m going to talk about something people are often nervous about – Blind Dating!

People often try blind dates for the first time due to the help of mutual friends. Perhaps they’ve already tried online dating or singles parties and didn’t have much luck.  Several years ago, before the invention of the internet, blind dates were more common and often arranged by family or family friends. Today, blind dates tend to be favoured by the more adventurous singles – especially those with a good sense of humour.

For some people, blind dating can a but scary.  What if they make a fool of themselves? What if the person you are being set up with a 25 stone oddball with a very large collection of cats?  This fear can often stop people trying new things.  Nowadays blind dates don’t need to be so “blind” as it’s easy enough to do a little “background” work on a potential date.  Once you have got some details about them, make sure you’ve got a full name.  Then all you need to do it run a quick search on Facebook and bingo – you can see their photo!

As the Dating Guru, I’d absolutely encourage blind dates. The advantage of this kind of dating is that you are both doing in on a personal recommendation from a friend.  If you trust their judgement you’ll know that they wouldn’t be risking a friendship unless they genuinely think you would be a good match.  Just make sure you follow basic safety measures.     Always meet in a busy place and make sure you tell somewhere where you are going.    I’d advise you to keep the first meeting short – perhaps just go for a coffee.  You can always arrange to see them again for longer if you like them.  Life is short so you’ve nothing to lose by meeting them for an hour or so. You never know, you might just get on!

Remember that you won’t fancy everyone you meet and you’ll get rejected too. This happens to everyone as we all like different things. Some people like strawberry ice cream and others like chocolate – that’s why there are so many different flavours!  Sometimes it’s kinder to end a date early if you just don’t fancy them or feel a connection.  The important thing is that you don’t allow it knock your confidence.   The way round this is to make sure you always have some more dates lined up with other people, so you have something else round the corner.

One final tip – go on the blind date without any expectations. Instead, go out with the plan to have fun and make a new friend. Anything else is a bonus and you won’t be setting yourself up for disappointment.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

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