Does your boyfriend/girlfriend pay more attention to others than to you?

What’s acceptable behaviour and what crosses the line?

Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you stop finding other people attractive.  However, it’s a thin line between an appreciative glance and a perverted leer.

I’d suggest that as long as they don’t do it when they are with you then it’s OK.  After all, it’s human nature to get pleasure from looking at nice things.  It doesn’t mean they don’t love you or don’t want to be with you.

We all admire or drool over certain celebrities, but remember they have mostly been airbrushed to look their best.  Don’t feel that you are inferior to them as it’s usually taken a whole team to make them look that good!

Sometimes we can’t help ourselves from looking if we get caught by surprise.  This could be a girl in a short dress or a perhaps a guy in a tight pair of trousers.   You can’t do anything about this so don’t dwell on it.  You’d probably act in the same way if you weren’t thinking about it.

Some people do need to learn when this behaviour is pushing the limits though.  If you find they are doing it all the time then this can be very upsetting as well as disrespectful.  So if it’s a problem say something to them.  They might accuse you of overreacting or of being jealous for no reason, but make it clear about how you feel.  Don’t issue an ultimatum just yet, but ask them to tone it down.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

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