Perhaps you’ll be next?

We love hearing all about your success stories. Not only do they make our day, they help encourage all our other members to keep going. So here are some of the latest ones.

“I’m really happy with your service. will def recommend.”  AC

“Thank you for helping me find ‘the one’.”  NS

“I have enjoyed some of the events and may attend with my friends sometimes. Staff at events have been lovely. Thanks”  AF

“I’ve met a few people from this site and would recommend it to others ! VP

“Speed dating events well organised” DR

“Very impressive site and very simple to use”  KA

“The site is a good way to meet people outside your normal social circle. Met some nice guys” AP

“Very useful thank you very much!”  JP

” I met someone at one of your events, and am no longer single
Feed back : Good,  met some great mates” JI

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single
Feed back : Thank you for your services! “  RB

“Just when I was about to give up, Miss Right winked at me. Thanks……….” MR

“The service you provide is excellent and would use this site again and have recomended to friends “  SN

“Fabulous service, met lovely man on 2nd event i went to in London, been with him 3 mths and its fabulous. keep up the good work, this works!!” HD

If you have your own success story then we’d love to hear it. We’ll even send you some champagne if you send us a photo. Please email us now via info@singlesolution.com

James and Paul

www.singlesolution.com

But should that hinder your dating?

We’re having lots of rainy weather in the UK at the moment.  It’s tempting to just stay at home and watch television rather than be proactive about dating.   However, if you do that then you are missing out on a huge possible increase in your dating success.

When the weather is bad, more people DO stay at home…but they’ll use the chance to log on to an online dating site ( such as Singlsolution.com) and contacting lots of people.  Therefore, the websites will have a lot more activity and an increase in people paying for full memberships.

So your best bet is to make sure that you are also logged on so you can contact people while they are also online.

You’ll also find that  more people will accept an offer of date too.   This is because they are bored of watching the rain outside the window and would appreciate new things to do that might distract them.   After all, most dates do take place inside in the dry!  Coffee, Drinks, Art Galleries, Restaurants are all under cover so should never be an obstacle for dating.

One final tip, make sure you meet near to a station and know where you are heading in advance.  You want to head to your destination as quickly as possible without getting soaking wet. Always bring an umbrella just to be on the safe side.
Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

So why do some people keep their coats on?

We have a Single Solution policy that we ask everyone to take off their coats when they come to a party.   So we’d just like to explain our reasons for doing this.

If you walk into a party with your coat on then it really gives everyone a bad impression of you.   It makes creates a barrier around you that will stop people coming up and approaching you.  If you look like you are just about to leave before you’ve even begun, then they know there is little point starting a conversation.

We do our best to provide cloakrooms for all of our events.  These are usually free or just £1 an item to to cover the venue’s staffing costs.  As all our guests are professionals, we know that that £1 won’t break the bank!

So…please take off your coats and use the cloakroom.  We guarantee you’ll relax more and have a much better time.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

What exactly IS a date?

Several people have told me about a problem they experience from time to time in dating.  They get “asked out”  but they aren’t completely sure about the context.

If you’ve arranged something via an online dating site like Singlesolution.com then of course you won’t have any doubt.  It’s obvious from the outset that you are continuing what you started online and that it’s a date.

However, what if someone you know from someone else?  Perhaps you’ve met a few times at a business function or at a friends party.  You might have talked about work or hobbies.

So, when you get the invitation to meet up it can be really confusing.   Is it an official “date”,   two friends passing time or an opportunity to discuss a business plan?    Quite often neither of you with want to firmly label in to a date due to a natural fear of rejection.

This is a very bad strategy as your behaviour changes depending on the scenario you are going into.  You’ll dress differently, act differently and guide the discussion to different talking points.   The worst thing is if one person believes it to be something the other never intended.   This only lead to disappointment, resentment, confusion and no hope of a second date!  Even if you like each other you won’t flirt or connect in the right way and the outcome will leave you both permanently stuck in the dreaded friends zone.

My advice is to always be as clear as possible when you do the asking.  Tell them you are interested in them and that you’d like to meet up for a date to see how things work out.  If they don’t see you as a dating possibility then they won’t accept the offer anyway.  If they do, you can prepare for it and see where it might lead.   You might get less dates but at least they will be with people who are genuinely keen.

I’d love to hear your own thoughts on this.  Has this ever happened to you?   Do add your comments to this blog.
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

a very happy Easter!
We hope you enjoy the long bank holiday weekend and get to eat lots of Easter eggs!
Best Wishes,

James and Paul

www.singlesolution.com

Here’s how to tell if you should stay together.

Dating is supposed to be fun and when you meet your match your life should be improved because of it.    But not everyone stays together for the right reason.

In fact, some people feel better when they are “in a relationship” rather than face being on their own.  So they’ll stay in unhappy, unloving relationships just to avoid the temporary pain and discomfort they might feel.   If this is you, you need to stop making excuses for them and take a look at the warning signs.  These could be :

1) They criticise you and put you down.

2) They won’t tell you that they love you or show you any affection.

3) They have more down days than up days and their mood changes all the time.

4) They constantly question you and demand to know what you are up to all the time.

5) They are overly jealous

6) They demand you stop seeing your friends or give up hobbies or interests you enjoy

7) They seem to want to have arguments all the time rather than resolve problems.

If you are having doubts,  ask yourself the big questions:  Why are you really staying together?

Are you afraid you might never meet anyone else and you’ll always be on your own?   Could you do better?

The reality is that if you aren’t happy then you need to get out.  You never will meet someone you deserve until you free yourself from this person first.  Trust me, you will meet someone much better who treats you with respect, but first you have to respect yourself and stop dating the wrong person.

There are so many lovely single people out there who would love to get the chance to meet you.

Good luck!
James Preece – Dating Coach

Here’s how to avoid these huge faux pas

We run many Singles parties at the Single Solution and most of them include optional speed dating.  You don’t get long to meet each person so it’s important you make a great impressioon quickly.

I’ve noticed people making these big mistakes recently so I want to write about them make sure you don’t do the same!

1) Forgetting to introduce  yourself

Before you being a conversation you need to smile, say hello and state your name. Then they’ll give you theirs and the date begins. However, some people just come over and say hello . If you don’t swap names then you will be forgettable!

2) Forgetting personal hygiene.

This is very important. Always take a shower before you come and wear a nice clean pressed outfit. There’s nothing worse than sweat patches and smelling like you’ve just run a marathon. Deodorant and a quick tab of perfume/ aftershave takes seconds.

3) Being Forceful

Whatever you do, don’t demand a phone number or email address right there and then. Just take note of their username and contact them on the website for free the next day. If you start insisting they give you their contact info then it comes across as rude and youll blow your chances.

4) Saying stupid things.

Be careful that you don’t say the wrong thing, even in jest. Keep your conversation conservative or you risk offending them. You might have a great sense of humour but if they’ve not had time to realise that they might take what you say seriously.

5) Being Cold or dismissive

Everyone is a little shy at first but that’s no excuse to be rude. Even if you aren’t interested, it’s polite to be respectful and good practice for the people you like. Ask lots of questions and show an interest, even if you have pretend.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Hopefully they will keep you motivated!

We love hearing all about your success stories. Not only do they make our day, they help encourage all our other members to keep going. So here are some of the latest ones.

“Everything was great. Found a perfect match” HK

“I met someone via your site and we are getting married!! Thank you so much!” NS

“very good site! so glad i found someone, thanks very much ” HK

“I think your services are very good thank you very much” NW

“I have met the love of my life, thanks guys for the help!!” SC

“The site is good way to meet people if your shy and it is a safe way to see who is single and also looking for a partner” MK

“”I was a bit skeptical joining a dating website and after meeting with a few guys i was convinced it wasn’t for me. However patience paid off and I am lucky to have met a wonderful man who has simply swept me off my feet. Thank you Single Solution!” RS

“Service is really good” RV

“This has been a great experience and I have found this site to be more useful than others. At the moment I want to see how it goes with someone I have met from here” AG

“Thank you for your service, i have met the woman of my dreams” KB

“Great site, thank you for all you support.” HH

“The website was very user friendly and I would recommend it to anyone” AK

“The services you provide are excellent”  SS

“The service provided is fantastic, thank you for your help” AP

“User friendly site and a good dating service” KG

“Service was good, with easy member interaction.” MV

“It’s a great way of meeting people- i met her years ago and is still going well!” RA

“I think the service is very good and well organised” RM

“Services offered are v good, met some nice people along the way” JS

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : Great Website, great events” HB

“Very good and well organised site” SD

“I enjoyed the event that i attended and many thanks for your service” BP

“Very good website, professional – I’ve recommended a lot of friends” RD

“Great site with some good talent. I’ve met a few good prospects on this site, now it’s a matter of seeing which one is right for me thanks!”  JR

“I met someone on your dating site, and am no longer single Feed back : excellent service, couldnt have asked for a better site!” RP

If you have your own success story then we’d love to hear it. We’ll even send you some champagne if you send us a photo. Please email us now via info@singlesolution.com

James and Paul

www.singlesolution.com

It will help you make more connections.

If you see someone you like across the room, you’ll want to go up and say hello.  But there’s a wrong and a right way to do this.

Many people will just walk up to them, say hello and then wonder why they don’t get the warmest of reactions.  This is because you’ve got them by complete surprise and possibly even invaded their personal space.

The correct strategy is:

1) Get eye contact first.  The is the most important step.  Give them a chance to see you and to notice that you are warm and friendly.  If they hold your gaze or look back within one minute, then it’s saft to continue.  If they don’t acknowledge you then it’s not worth approaching them at this time.

2) Once you have the eye contact, smile.   They should smile back or at least give you some sort of visual clue they are interested.

3) Go up and say hello.  However, you must make sure you approach them from the front.  That way they can see you coming and they can prepare themselves to meet you. If you approach them from the back then you’ll catch them off guard and make them feel uncomfortable.

If you find this all a little nerve racking, then that’s understandable.  Like most things in life it can take a little practice unless you are used to it.  So the secret is to keep approaching people and testing things out.  The more you speak to them the more chances of success.  What’s more, you’ll look like a popular, social person and everyone else in the room will want the chance to come up and say hi anyway!

I’ll leave you on this: If you stay sitting down in the corner of the room like a wallflower, then nobody will want to chat with you.  Look like a person worth speaking to and they will naturally be drawn in your direction.

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

If you want dating success working out can help.

If you are doing a lot of dating it can be quite easy to pile on the pounds.  Just think of all the calories in the cocktails and extra delicious food you are having each week!   So you need to be doing something to keep fit.

Being fit is a sign of healthiness which is what most people look for in a partner.  If you eat carefully and work out often you’ll have clearer skin, a more toned physique and will be overall much more attractive.

If you are fit and look great then you’ll find dating so much easier. You might even meet a possible date or two while you are doing it.  After all, single people have more time to work out so you’ll often find them in the gym or running around the park.

Regular exercise will get your blood pumping and releases “feel good chemicals” in to your body.  So not only will you look better but you’ll be in a better mood too!

A date that involves exercise is always a great idea.  By doing something exciting together, such as going for a walk or a light jog, you will have plenty to talk about. So much better than the usual dinner and drinks.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com