It’s a fantastic success story that just goes to show our event really do work.

It comes from one of our regular members who has attended quite a few of our events over the years.

“Hi James (and Paul),

I met a gorgeous girl at your party on February 13 and we’ve been going out ever since. In fact we just got back from a holiday together. I suppose I should cancel my membership of your web site – I only go there to read your blog now. Thanks for everything you’ve done for me.”

This is brilliant news as he’s stuck with us and never given up.    Some people will come once and then never sign up again as they didn’t meet anyone. You really can’t expect to meet someone through a couple of events.  Yes,  it does happen but dating is such a numbers came that should always try to increase your odds and attend as many parties as possible.

Remember this: If you go to the gym once or twice you won’t get fit – but keeping sticking at it and you’ll get the results you want.  It’s like most things in life – the quitters never get anywhere.

We wish them all the very best.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

So what IS an Alpha Male?

This term is usually used to refer to a man who is powerful or in a high social position

In nature, attraction between mates is determined by the survival of the fittest philosophy. The mate that is chosen is the one that is most likely to breed strong, healthy offspring. In many animal societies the alpha male will be the only male in the pack, and it will be his job to impregnate the females in order for the species to survive.

So in dating, the alpha tends to be the one who gets all the women!

However, contrary to popular belief, this isn’t through being rude, arrogant, macho or cocky. Instead, here are the five best ways you can learn to become and Alpha Male:

1) Be Confident. This is the number quality that a woman will look for in a man so it’s the key thing all Alpha Men possess. Be relaxed and comfortable in your surroundings. It always help to dress up whenever you go out as it gives the impression you are high status and sure of yourself.

2) Be Masculine. Show off your muscles, achievements, or skills to get people to think of you as dominant. Know who you are and never be afraid to express your true personality. An Alpha man Doesn’t fear doesnt’ care what other think of him or of being judged.

3) Take the lead. As an Alpha Male, you need to take control. In fact, most women expect it as they they want to be looked after. For example, don’t ask where they would like to go on a date – but surprise them instead.

4) Know what you are worth. Respect yourself. you value yourself as equal to or above everyone else including any girl you approach. You need women to realise that you have a lot more to offer than other men and they need to be the ones to impress you.

5) Don’t be too serious. As always, dating is about fun. You need to demonstrate that you have a good, almost cheeky sense of humour.

If you’d like to know more about becoming an Alpha Male, I recommend this fantastic guide:

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

You need to get yourself into the right state of mind!

Many people have unresolved issues from the past.  This can make your wary of starting new relationships.  So my advice is to leave the past where it is  and concentrate on the future instead.  The events in your past made you the person you are today and you should always be proud of that.

It’s not just the past that can stop you from succeeding but also self-sabotaging your love life but staying in an unhappy relationship.  This is usually because you enjoy the ego boost or would rather be with “anyone” than be alone.

For example, perhaps you are seeing someone who isn’t ready to commit to the relationship.  If you something more
long term and defined then you should work out if they will ever change their minds.  If not, you should end things
immediately and not waste any more time on them. The same goes for any negative aspect of a relationship, whether
it’s cheating, verbal abuse or laziness .  End it right now. They are simply holding you back from being completely happy.

You will never meet Mr or Miss Right if you aren’t ready to give them 100% of your love, time or attention.

So get rid of any baggage, get shot of your fears and open yourself up to the wonderful new possibilities that will arise.

They are waiting for you – you just have to be ready to accept them into your life.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

As promised, we’ll be regularly updating this blog page so you can see the fantastic success rates our customers have:

July 2010

“I have met the love of my life and we are getting married next year. Thank you very very much for creating this website through which I met HIM. Many Thanks” JG

“I met someone on your dating site. If you want to find the one never stop looking no matter how you are feeling… you never know when you may find the one… I cried once I realised I had the one I needed in my life… XXXX” AM

“I think it was extremeley well organised and found the people there were very approachable.” JA

“After attending a few Single Solutions functions, I met a wonderful guy this Spring. We are both very happy and would recommend this website to our singleton friends.It brings like minded souls together not only via online dating but at fun events too. Everyone desires someone special in their life and we wouldlike to thank Single Solutions for bringing us together”  VN

“Your services were good and I have now found someone. Thank you!” SM

“I enjoyed the event- good ratio of men to women- and managed to get a number and a date fixed up too. Result!” PI

“Loved the events in Brum, met some nice people and even dated one for 9 months” HP

“Thank you all so much for helping me meet my match. We have now been together for three months and its lovely. We both thank you so very much for helping us meet one another” MM

“Friendly staff and good events to complement the site.  It’s good to meet real people” JP

“Very good service. Met some very nice people on this site. Thanks.” HP

“I think this is a great site! Combining online profiles with events is a great idea. Keep it up!!” BS

“Great service! Have met someone on your site and we have decided to be exclusive!” MD

June 2010

“Hi Paul / James and team I think your site is great, helpful and easy to use. I have found my match after so long and thank you all so much for making this happen!” MN

“Honestly speaking, I feel what you guys have done with SS, and achieved with your brand (for what its worth) – is awesome, overall” SM

May 2010

“Great site – recommended to friends” CL

“A fine service to humanity !” AM

“Great venue, relaxed atmosphere, good guests, helpful staff” MV

“The service was brilliant, I got to know alot of nice people who are now mates” MA

“I had a really enjoyable time on Sat. Much more so than anticipated I might add!” RK

“The magician was brilliant and you should give him more work!” AD

“Thank you for all your support, it was really good being with you..” HM

“Very good site and well organised events” BP

“Venue was right size for turn out, good facilities. Great music and good bar service.” NN

“The event was great. The Ice breaker with the cards worked really well and the staff were really friendly and helpful. It exceeded my expectation and was a light relaxed friendly environment. ” HS

“Excellent. one of the best sites on the web” SR

April 2010

“I would just like to let you know that I met my now husband not last October but the one before last at one of your events. We had a wonderful wedding on April 7th. We are eternally grateful to the singlesolution for bringing us together. Long live the Singlesolution!

“I thoroughly enjoyed Saturday’s party which was the first I’d attended for some time” MW

“Just to let you know I am seeing someone who I met through the website!” HP

“Good Services and has helped me to find someone with my busy lifestyle” SC

“Pretty good, as I managed to find my man on the site!” SP

“I really enjoyed using this site and found it great to meet some prospective partners. Thanks and keep up the great work.” IM

“I think your parties are great, probably the best of all the singles parties – I would recommend them to my single friends – wishing you continued success.” SH

March 2010

“You guys rock!” BP

“Great site.. met a few very decent guys on your site whom I am now friends with. would definitely come back if iI was single again. Thank you!” DN

“This is a very good service and I have recommended to many of my single friends” HD

“Well organised and very civilised events” PK

“I went to your valentine event and all the staff, the organisation, let me say, was brilliant. Thank you again, and will keep you posted!” MM

“I wanted to thank you so much for creating this website. I joined a few years back, attended a couple of events, which were unsuccessful for me. But through the website (which is great) I met my perfect match. I was beginning to think there was no one out there for me but this website proved me wrong. We are due to get married at the end of this year. Thankyou so much. S L and A P”

“Great events with professional and friendly hosts” RH

FEB 2010

“I loved the speedate event I went to on Valentines..the first one I went to. Staff were great too. I have met someone and going to see how it goes. Thanks again. You guys have been great.” MM

“The Valentine’s event was well organised and good fun. I spoke to lots of interesting people and the speed dating was much less intimidating than I had expected. The first young lady I met was lovely, and we’ve been on a few dates since, so watch this space… To anyone thinking of whether or not to bite the bullet, do it: you never know who you might meet!” NM

“Good range of events and wide variety of people attending.” JG

“Well run, probably the best about” JM

“I met someone elsewhere but I think your site is fantastic. Keep up the good work!”

We’ll teach you how in today’s blog.

It’s often useful to be able to spot when someone is lying especially when it comes to dating.  A few small fibs are natural but some people have something to hide and lie to disguise it.    Here are our tips on how to spot the signs they arent being honest with you.

1) Liars will play with try to  put an ostruction between themselves and the other person as subconscious way of attempting to build up a defence.  So watch out if they start moving wine glasses, cups or salt shakers around the table.

2) Adrenalin rushes through the body when people are fibbing, which can mean they blink a lot more and their eyes dilate.

3) A genuine smile involves the slight crinkling of eyes and only lasts for less than five seconds. A fake smile doesn’t involve the eyes at at all and can go on much longer.  They may also look a little more “glassy eyed” as if they are trying to stare right through you.

4) Watch out for their facial expressions and see if they match what they are saying, as they are hard to hide.  For example,  are they saying they are excited and happy, but their face is unsmiling and serious?

5)  Listen very carefully. Liars will tend to overcomplicate their stories and specify every little detail.

They do this so they won’t be asked too many questions after.   Listen out for exact timings and place names that most people would gloss over.

The same rules apply for spotting lies as for any other body language – you need to look for several signs together to be certain.

We all scratch our noses or shuffle our feet, so don’t be too quick to judge!

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Dressing to Impress.

We pride ourselves at the Single Solution on having the very best, most professional members.   That’s why we insist that everyone makes an effort when attending our events.  You need to be aware of the messages that you are sending out from your clothing choices. A few small changes  can dramatically increase your dating success.

By dressing well, you’ll not only look better but will feel more attractive too.

So what does “smart casual” actually mean?

Well it’s quite simple really.  Just wear something comfortable that is somewhere between smart, that you might wear to work or to a wedding, and casual pub gear.

The idea is to get noticed and so if you lean towards glamorous, that is fine too and  it’s unlikely that you can over dress as long as you feel comfortable. What we don’t recommend are  tuxedos and ball gowns. We do insist that our guests don’t wear trainers, t-shirts or shorts.

Always wear things that show your best features and hide your worst!

Guide for Men

For men this might mean, cords, smart non-blue jeans or chinos and casual shirt with a collar but no tie. A jacket is a bonus and may help compensate for blue jeans. Shoe choice is important. Brogues, slip ons or off-black colours such as brown would be perfect but black is fine too. Big no-nos would be trainers, collarless t-shirts,  tracksuits. Anything with a slogan on would be considered too casual. Suit and tie is great if you feel comfortable, but the tie is probably not needed. To ensure you look like you made an effort all clothes should of course be clean and pressed.

Guide for Women

For ladies there is a little more flexibility as ladies have the option to wear less to look sexy, whereas for men, this just isn’t an option. For example if you have the figure for it you’ll look great in a cocktail dress and heels. Most people might opt for a more conservative look with Smart slacks or skirt and blouse. Non-blue jeans are fine but blue jeans are not ideal unless you offset with smart shoes and top. No-nos would be trainers, sports wear or baggy tops with slogans.

These rules apply for our singles parties but also are very important when going out on dates too.  Studies have shown that 70% of singles would chose not to see someone again if they dressed badly on a first date.

We hate turning guests away from events, especially once they’ve already booked and turned up at the venue. So make sure you follow the guidelines here.

These are also the conditions of many of our venues too, which might be smart bars, hotels or restaurants.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

We take a look the ways some people can sabotage themselves on a date and how they can fix this.

First of all,  you need to work out what exactly you are doing wrong.  Then it can be easy enough to put things right.

This can usually fall in to one of three things:

Too Needy,  Too Negative or Too Picky

1)Too Needy

You are so desperate to get a partner that you accept anyone who shows any interest.  You go out on dates purely for the sake of dating and often end up sleeping with anyone who pays you any attention.  You get upset and angry when you don’t hear back from the straight away and ruin possible relationships by being too keen or demanding.

Sometimes you think that this person will be able to fix your life or you’ll overlook major issues thinking that you can change them yourself.

The Cure:  Take a step back.  If you need to, have a break from dating and only ever date someone you think you really will have a great future with.

2)Too Negative

You’ve had some bad experiences in the past and don’t want to  let yourself get hurt again.  Therefore you focus on your past rather than looking to your future.

Your date doesn’t want to hear about how bad your life is or hear about your faults and insecurities.

The Cure:   Challenge yourself to be positive.  Wear something that you feel great in and keep your body language upbeat and friendly. Work out all the things in life that you enjoy and that are going well for you.   Everyone is different so don’t expect them to treat you the same as your ex.

3) Too Picky

Nobody is able to meet your high standards and as such you won’t give anyone a chance.  You’ll come across as rude and defensive rather than a possible partner.  Perhaps you won’t make the effort on a date as you’ve already decided it’s not going to go anywhere before you’ve even met.

The Cure:    Take the opportunity to find out more about your date.   What do you have in common?  Are you enjoying their company?  Above all, work out what really is important to you and let anything else go.  You aren’t perfect so why would they be?

Good luck!
James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

This can mean you aren’t in the mood for dating. So in today’s blog I’m going to give you some quick tips for instant happiness.

1) Try and give meaning to every day.  If you make one thing happen, no matter how small, you’ve made that day a success.

2) Work out what you have to look forward to.  Make a list of everything good you have coming up, no matter how small.   This could be a holiday, coffee with a friend or your favourite show on television.

3) Money isn’t everything.  The most important asset you have is your friends.   If you have lots of friends then you’ll have a large support group who value and appreciate you.  This is something no amount of money can buy.

4) Find a distraction.  Do something to take your mind off things. If it’s something you enjoy then you’ll soon cheer up.

5)  Talk to someone.   If you can explain to someone why you are unhappy you’ll be able to

6) Spend time with children.  Look after a relative or a  friend’s child for a day .  Children have a way of lighting up the world so you won’t be able to feel down.

7) Reflect on past glories.  Remember all the good times and it will lift your mood.  Remember that you’ve already overcome every single difficulty you’ve ever had.

8 ) Believe in yourself.  If you don’t then how can you expect anyone else to?

9) Sleep on it.  You’ll feel much happier when you are well rested.  Also,  it gives your subconscious mind the chance to work out to solutions to any problems you might face.

10) Try something new.  Step out of our comfort zone, break your usual routine and open yourself up to endless new opportunities!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

But what happens after that?

In this blog I shall be writing about the very special second date.

OK, so everything went well for your first meeting.  You made a great connection and have already  both decided you want to see more of each other.  You clearly both worked hard to create a good first impression so don’t blow it now!

You won’t be as nervous this time, but you will still be keen to see if the spark is still there.  Most people don’t show the real “them” until the second or third date so you might still be in s for a few surprises.

Here are some quick tips to make sure you meet up again:

1)  Location, Location, Location.   If you met for a coffee or a few drinks before, then this is a great time to go for a meal together.  Stay clear of theatre and movies for this one as you’ll want to keep up the conversation. Use the opportunity to find out more about each other.

2) Relax.  Let your guard down a little, smile often and don’t worry aboout things too much.  Don’t feel you have to rush into things too quickly.

3) Make the effort.   Try and go the extra mile and look even better than you did the first time you met.  They will probably have a strong memory of you the first time and their imagination can build you up even further.  So dress as well as you can, brush your hair and be even more flirtatious.

4) Plan the next date.   Do this gently and try not to scare them off by being too keen.  You DO need to make your intentions clear if you want to meet again as the third date can often be the “decider” date.  This is when you both decide you want to take things more seriously and perhaps exclusively.  Therefore try and talk about activities you can do together or places you can go – setting a time in your diaries there and then.

5)  Go in for a kiss.    It’s make or break time – if you like them then you need to go for it.  If you don’t then they’ll assume you aren’t interested and only ever be friends.  If you try and fail, you’ve not lost anything anyway!

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Here are some great date ideas we know you’ll love:

1)Take a trip to the seaside.   If you have an Oyster Card then you can get return train tickets for an amazing £5 return until the end of July!  You can choose from Brighton, Bognor Regis or Southend.  Check out the Daysoutguide for more info.

2) Hampton Court Palace.  This is most famous for it’s huge outdoor maze.   Stay close together and have fun trying to get out.  You’ll be amazed at how much you enjoy it!

3) Boating. Both Regents Park and Hyde Park have famous boating lakes.  You can hire a small rowing boat and take your date out for a leisurely afternoon on the lakes. If you really can’t be bothered then there are plenty of boats trips available near the Thames.

4) London Zoo.  This really does make a wonderful date as there is so much to see and talk about.  Everyone has a favourite animal so why not sponsor one for your date while you are there?

5) Picnic in the Park.  This isn’t a new idea but it’s still of the best as it’s so easy to do.  Just pack a picnic basket and head somewhere romantic. Make sure you pack strawberries, cream and champagne to make it unforgettable.

6) A show under the Stars.  There are plenty of big music concerts and films at this time of year, all outside.   We particularly recommend the Regent’s Park Open Air Theatre.

7)  Watch the Sun set.   Take full advantage of one of nature’s loveliest views – the sun setting.   You can either do this from the top of a hill or a roof terrace restaurant.  The choice is yours.

Ice Cream Parlour.  We all loved this when we were kids so you can bring back happy memories instantly.  Harrods and Selfridges have their own parlours but there are plenty of independent ones too. Just remember – you’ll need one dessert and two straws!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com