Here’s a tip for all you single guys that should help you get more dates.

Apparently all you need to do is crank up your stereo when you are on the phone!

This test was set up by the Psychology of Music Journal in France. Researchers played a love song in the background when a single man asked a selection of girls out.

A whopping 52% of these women agreed to go out with this perfectly average man.  When the researchers played a neutral tone then the success rate fell to just 30%.

The song chosen was “Je ‘aime a mourir” (I love her until I die) which is a well-known love song by French songwriter Francis Cabrel.

The theory is that romantic music can affect your internal state and put you in the mood for love.  Of course, further research is needed to prove this to be true, but there’s no harm in trying it out as men often need all the help they can get!

So ladies, I ask you this:  What love song do you like best?   Which one would start getting thinking romantic thoughts?

Please post your favourite songs as comments on the end of this blog.  It would be really interesting to find out!

Happy Dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

There’s a fine line between dating and getting into a serious relationship.

Are you just having fun or are things getting more involved that than.  So how can you tell?

One of my clients asked me a question the other day that got me thinking about this. She asked me:

“I’ve had two dates and we’re getting on really well.  Do I refer to him as my “boyfriend” now?”

I think two dates can be a little too early to tell, but there are certain clues that can help you work it out:

Is either of you still dating other people?
Have you introduced each other to your friends and family?
Are you both making plans together for events in few months time?  (I.e holidays, Christmas etc)
Have you bought each other expensive gifts like watches or jewellery?
Do they ask your opinion regularly?

If you aren’t clear then there’s only one way to find out – ask!   Sit down together and ask where they see things going.  If they can’t look you in the eye or stammer and stutter then get out of there .  However, fingers crossed they’ll tell you that they like you and want to take things to the next level.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru
www.singlesolution.com

There are now so many ways that singles can meet each other.

But are we creating a singles epidemic?

It’s never been easier to hook up with new people.  Online dating, singles parties, friends are all fantastic ways for doing this but it’s easy to all into the trap of becoming a dating junkie.  Yes, there really is too much of a good thing sometime.

I was reading article about comedian Dave Wards and how he went wrong:

“I went on loads of dates… but the more successful the date, the more I felt inspired to go in search of yet more potential suitors… no matter how nice the woman was, there was always a seemingly never ending stream of online lovelies waiting in the wings of cyberspace.”

The trouble is that the simpler it becomes, the fussier we get!  There’s always another round the corner.  We have an unprecedented number of potential matches and therefore find ourselves always looking for the next one.  It’s like being a kid in a sweetshop, so spoilt for choice that you try and eat as many as possible.  The problem is that by doing this you don’t give yourself time for romance and lose sight of the end result – a long term relationship.

Have you found yourself in the same situation?  Are you an Internet Dating Addict?  If you are, it’s time to take charge and start taking things more seriously.

Work out what’s most important to you and stick to it.

Good luck!

James Preece  -   The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Dates are supposed to be fun, but there are several things that can set alarm bells ringing.

I’ve made a list of some of the most common “warning signals” that you should be aware of.
If you get more than a couple of these during your date then get yourself out of there!

1)       They try and pick you up or get you to meet them at their house.   Always meet in a busy, public place.

2)       They were more than 10 minutes late and didn’t warn you.   Yes, traffic can be bad and public transport worse, but they just be able to let you know so you don’t wait around like a lost puppy.

3)       They’ve been rude to the waiters. According to studies, this is THE biggest dating faux pas of all!

4)       They complain about the cost, despite boasting about how much money they earn.    Either they are lying to you or are just plain tight.

5)       They keep checking their mobile phone every two minutes.  What’s so important that they can’t focus on getting to know yo?

6)       They ask what your surname name is…..so they can google you later!    Don’t give out too many personal details on a first date, just in case.

7)       You’ve not genuinely laughed or smiled once.  Life is too short to be bored silly.

8)      They keep going on about their ex.  Everyone knows this one but it still happens a lot.  Keep the past in the past – nobody ever wants to feel second best.

9)       Forgetting to thank you.  Even if a date has gone badly, it’s important that common manners still come in to play.  If they’ve paid then you should thank them.  It’s that simple.

10)    They add you as a Facebook friend the second the date is over.    It’s just too soon to be doing this.   You’ll worry that if you accept that they can see dubious photos of you and if you don’t it might look rude.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

In today’s blog I’m going to teach you a very important lesson for when you are out and about.

I was hosting a singles party a short while ago and one of my clients had bought a ticket.  He’d  got his eyes on a rather lovely young lady who he was desperate to talk to.  I thought they might make a great match so I encouraged him to go and say hello.

The problem was, she was constantly surrounded  by men. Not her fault, of course, but this made it near impossible for him to step in.  Such a moment did present itself after a while, but before he could so much as move, another chap swooped in for her attention.

Then, as we stood discussing this, we watched her write down her number and give it to the man she was with.   She didn’t know it, but she’d instantly blown her chance with anyone else.

Why? Well people don’t like competition.  “I don’t want to date someone who hands out her number to everyone she meets”, said my client.   She might have given her number of many other reasons than a dating interest, but by then it was too late.

Think about how you act when you decide you fancy someone.  You’ll watch them from afar, sussing them out and deciding whether to go over and say something.   They might not be aware, but you’ll notice everything they do – whether it’s laughing, buying a drink, going to the loo or picking their nose!   Before you know it, you’ve persuaded yourself NOT to approach them after all.

Always keep in mind that someone might be watching, so always be conscious of  what you are doing.  Look your best or you might be ruining your chances without ever knowing it.

Good luck!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Everyone has single friends so I’m going to teach you how to make the most of them.

If you’ve got a good looking friend of the opposite sex then you should use them to your full advantage.

It’s strange how many people complain that they don’t have an single friends, but the reality is that if you really think about it you’ve probably got loads!  Don’t dismiss them just because you aren’t interested in each other.  Instead, go out together and see how many new people you can meet just as friends.

There are few things more attractive to someone than then fact that other people are attracted to you.   If you are together in a bar, then everyone will assume you are a couple and will wonder what’s so special about you. Just remember to laugh a lot and look like you are having fun and enjoying each others company.

You’ll also find it easier to approach people you fancy as you’ll be seen as less threatening as part of a pair.  You’ll be able to support each other and try new things without the fear of being left on your own.  If you approach another couple ( either male/male or female/female) then you friend can step in and keep them occupied while you get to know the one you are interested in.

In a recent study,  volunteers were given photographs of “couples” and asked to rate them.  The average people with gorgeous partners were all voted as having the highest status.

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Sometimes time can fly by and before you know it months have gone by and you’ve done nothing!

Then you begin to question why you’ve not had any dates or been getting the results you want.

If you want to have dating success then you need to take action. It can often seem daunting and hard to find time but it’s not that difficult really.

Remember that a journey of a thousand mile starts with a single step.

So make sure that you doing something, anything, no matter how small each and every day.

This could be as simple as sending one email or making one phone call.

Just do it every day and it will soon become a habit that you’ll fit in to your schedule automatically.

That way you’ll always be moving towards meeting someone amazing!

Once you can start getting results you’ll become much happier and more satisfied.

This in turn will make it easier for you take that little bit of action you need.

Happy dating,

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

There comes a time at the start of every new relationship, where you have to do something that often seems very scary.

You’ve been seeing each other for a little while and all is going well.  Then suddenly, out of the blue it hits you. You knew it was coming but weren’t prepared for it to happen so soon.

It’s time to meet the family!

Here are some tips I’ve put together to help you get through this experience.  It’s a key moment in every long term relationship but it really doesn’t have to be traumatic.

1)       Relax.  It’s very likely that they’ll be nervous about meeting you too.  They also want to make a good impression!  The last thing they want it to embarrass themselves in front of their son or daughter.

2)    Treat it like just another date.  You’ll need to present a positive image of yourself, so dress well and make sure you are well groomed.

3)       Bring a Gift.  Whatever you do, don’t turn up empty handed.  If it’s a dinner party, bring some wine.  If it’s a birthday get a small gift.  Mum’s always love flowers and they’ll have never forget you made the effort.  Once you win over the Mum then everything gets much easier.

4)       Do your Research.   Find out who exactly you’ll be meeting and work out some talking points in advance.  Try and see if you have any mutual interests, such as sports, television or hobbies.   It’s much easier to keep the conversation flowing if you have already planned lots to chat about.

5)  Smile.  Everyone else will know each other so they will already have their own inside jokes, memories and stories.  You won’t follow everything that gets said so just keep smiling and don’t look bored!  As long as you look like you are having fun and enjoying yourself then everyone else will be able to relax, allowing you to bond faster.

Happy dating!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

Singles parties are full of interesting people, but not everyone makes the most of them.

Imagine you wanted to buy a car and went to visit a car showroom.  What would you do?

Well, first of all you’d look round and see which models take your fancy.  You’d then call over the car salesman and ask them to show you the ones you like.

It doesn’t matter if someone else is looking at the one you like, you’d still go over and take a look wouldn’t you?  If you still liked it you’d take it out on a test drive.    You wouldn’t buy the first car like tried either. Instead you’d try a few to see which you like best.

It’s exactly the same at a singles parties.  As soon as you arrive, you need to check out who is there.  Which people catch your eye?   Then you need to speak to one of our fantastic hosts who’ll help you with the introductions.  Don’t just stick to the first person you talk to,  get to know as many people as possible.   The important thing is to pick your targets on arrival and make sure you say hello to them all.

Finally, make sure you go out on lots of dates.    The shiniest cars with the least mileage aren’t necessarily the best!

James Preece – The Dating Guru

www.singlesolution.com

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